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    FL.. those clothes would be super cute on boys or girls I think. Very smart and trendy.

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    I do believe in gender roles for the most part, but I don't believe they extend to attire.

    Plenty of boys and men in our family and amongst our friends wear skirts all the time, it's a cultural norm.

    To the anti-dresses-for-boys brigade, it pays to keep in mind that dresses and skirts are girly only because your culture says so, pink is only girly because your culture currently says so, clothing is not something we are born with, it's not part of our biological nature to not put boys in dresses, so it's in fact you who is going against nature.

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    I just asked my 5 yr old DS if he wanted to wear a dress and he shook his head and said no. To be honest I felt a little relief as I would not feel comfortable going out with him in a dress.

    Having said that if we lived in a country where a dress, kilt, tunic etc was the norm then I would be fine with it. I would also deal better with it if he was a teenager/adult and made the choice himself as I feel that there would be less judgement directed me.

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    No way would I let my child of either gender tease another child for what they are wearing.

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    I'd be horrified if my kid teased someone about something as inconsequential as their choice of clothing. Whatever happened to being caring, inclusive people?

    It's not a sad reflection of the child, more of the parenting and the weird, weird culture we have about gender based attire.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Blossompossum View Post
    So as a test I asked ds what his fave colour was and he said its red. I then told him that some
    Boys fave colours are pink purple, blue etc.

    I also told him that. Friend of mines son wears a dress occasionally when they go out. He bursted out laughing
    And asked if this child did ballet. I said no and I asked what he thought about that he said "it is lame an if I saw a boy wearing a dress that's all I would say".

    My ds is 6. Kids tease about the smallest things these days and I just don't know why some people would encourage their sons to wear dresses etc (if their son wants to) when they will most likely cop slack about it when they get older.

    No way I would allow my son to go to school on a mufti day and wear a dress. If I did I would definantly be expecting another mother or Even the teacher to talk to me about it.

    I have 2 dd and while they have pretty blue dresses they have never put on y ds clothes.

    Just to add. My ds will occasionally play dolls with his little sister and my dd will sometimes play trucks with my dd.
    And what did you say to your son about calling people 'lame' because of what they wear?? [text deleted by moderator]
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    Like I said above, if it's what he chooses and he knows that he may be teased, I would still support him but I would probably pack an outfit for him to change into if he wanted, and explain to his teachers and be prepared to pick him up.

    I'm not going to actively encourage it by buying him dresses, but I will actively support him in whatever he chooses to do, or wear.

    Just like lambjam, my brother chose not to wear dresses in public once he got to an age where he had greater social awareness. I think the Vast majority would make a similar choice. My other brother did wear a dress to school for mufti but it was predominantly a joke and his school friends thought he was a legend for it.

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    If I ask my DS1 what his favourite colour is, he always lists pink among them.

    Seriously - the fact that he would call another kid "lame" says way more about you than it does about him. Not being mean - but he must have learnt that somewhere, and the fact that you are so adamant that it is wrong suggests that it could be you.

    I try and get my children to accept absolutely everyone, except mean kids of course.

    Quote Originally Posted by Blossompossum View Post
    So as a test I asked ds what his fave colour was and he said its red. I then told him that some
    Boys fave colours are pink purple, blue etc.

    I also told him that. Friend of mines son wears a dress occasionally when they go out. He bursted out laughing
    And asked if this child did ballet. I said no and I asked what he thought about that he said "it is lame an if I saw a boy wearing a dress that's all I would say".

    My ds is 6. Kids tease about the smallest things these days and I just don't know why some people would encourage their sons to wear dresses etc (if their son wants to) when they will most likely cop slack about it when they get older.

    No way I would allow my son to go to school on a mufti day and wear a dress. If I did I would definantly be expecting another mother or Even the teacher to talk to me about it.

    I have 2 dd and while they have pretty blue dresses they have never put on y ds clothes.

    Just to add. My ds will occasionally play dolls with his little sister and my dd will sometimes play trucks with my dd.

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    I don't have a son so am unsure of what I would do in the situation.
    But one thing I hope to teach my 3 daughters is to recognise that everyone is different and they present themselves differently. Whether that be due to preferred style, finances or cultural reasons.
    Although I myself at times can be quick to judge on appearance I would be quite disappointed in my girls if they ever discriminated against someone for how they looked.

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    But as Blissed said, some cultures wear "dresses" and "skirts", think Pacific Islands, think Scottish. I mean - would you laugh at them as well? Or is that ok?


 

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