I understand the concerns if you've had a baby with the Village Idiot, but if your ex is a semi-intelligent, sensible, hands on Dad and you're not breast feeding then I see no issue with it. Some non specific, generic guidelines are going to be relevant for some families but it's a bit naive to think it's something that could be applicable to all or even a large majority of families. And in some circumstances, the guidelines, when applied could be detrimental to the development of the baby.
Last edited by unsullied; 25-06-2013 at 14:53.
I thought he had to pay child support no matter what ??
OP, I have a 4mth old and 21mth old with exDH. He left suddenly while I was pregnant in very crappy conditions, so he certainly gave up some immediate rights. Luckily he understands this and is not being demanding at all.
He visits 2-3 times per week, usually for an hour or so. I've now just started leaving DS2 with him for 1-1.5hrs while I take DS1 swimming Sat mornings (we alternate his weekly lessons). He comes and stays with him in my home though. He is well aware - and understands - that he won't be taking DS2 away from me/my home for extended periods for quite some time.
FTR - it is absolutely publicly acknowledged, by the family court and child support agency among others, that for children under 12mths only short, regular visits are recommended. This information is readily available on the CSA website if you need to point your ex to it. I would be contacting them to force him to pay - what a ludicrous reason to stop payment.
Last edited by unsullied; 25-06-2013 at 15:35.
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