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    Default Visitation rights for 4 month old

    I just wanted to find out how much visitation your ex gets/did get with a baby. DS is 4 months old and my ex wants to take him on overnight leave. I've said no and offered a full day on the weekend and he can come over any time to visit ds but he's not happy with that. Also, was your arrangement made through court or privately? Thanks

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    The evidence is fairly clear that a baby shouldn't be away from their primary carer overnight, especially not at that age. I would think two hours two or three times a week would be ideal.

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    A agree, a few hours at once, especially that young! Are you breast feeding?

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    No he's formula fed

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    When DD1 was a baby at that age her dad visited her at my house for an hour or so a week, once or twice. He didn't have over night until her 2nd birthday.

    Your DS is far to young to be away from you for that length of time. I think what you have suggested is very fair.

    Please don't let him pressure you into agreeing to something you are not comfortable with.

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    My DD's dad didn't have her overnight until she was 15 months old. I think frequent visits supervised are better at that age. 4 months is too young to be away from the primary carer overnight.

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    Thanks for the responses ladies. He won't be happy and is already not paying child support because I haven't allowed overnight visits.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bubbles21 View Post
    Thanks for the responses ladies. He won't be happy and is already not paying child support because I haven't allowed overnight visits.
    That is NOT a valid reason for not paying child support!!!! Gah! Makes me so mad to read stories like this!!!

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    If he can't even live up to the financial responsibility of having a child why on earth should you trust him to have overnight responsibility? What a d!ck. stand your ground.

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    I don't have the facts to back this up but I'm sure I've heard others on here say that it is recognised by courts that short, frequent visits are best for young children. If he is going to be an idiot about access and csa you might need to get some legal advice.


 

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