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    Default Please help on getting 4month old to sleep through the night

    So dd has been all over the place with her sleeps the last few weeks. During day she only sleeps on/off average 3 hours and we have absolutley no bedtime routine as she leads the way and makes it known when its time to put her to bed. The other night she slept 10 hours straight!! 7am-5am for the first time ever with no feed during either! I know of other babies who do this every night!! I just want some advice on how to encourage her to do it again!! She usually sleeps 4-5 hours than has a feed at 2am then wants to start the day at 4am and won't resettle!! Really would love some advice/feedback, I know all babies are different but I can't keep starting the day so early :-( hope this makes sense too

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    Did your DD happen to sleep more during the day before the night that she slept 10 hours? The reason I ask is that when babies are overtired they often will sleep for shorter periods and a lot less regularly.
    I know it sounds counter-intuitive, but babies often don't know how to sleep. They will go and go and go until they fall apart from exhaustion and just pass out.

    Sometimes we miss the more subtle signs that our bubs are tired like slowing down, less noises, or that glassy eyed stare that can be so easy to miss. My little guy starts to blink less and less when he's tired. Every baby's signal is different and sometimes it's not very obvious at all.
    But you may find that if you're letting your bub set the pace that could be where you're having trouble. She's going to sleep when she's burnt out rather than when she first starts getting sleepy.

    My biggest recommendation would be to start a night time routine. DS always has a bath anywhere between 5pm and 6pm (depending how tired he is) then he has a cuddle and falls asleep. As he's still young we don't put him down awake just yet but at 4 months it's a good idea to start doing that.
    It was tough the first couple of nights as he didn't quite understand what was going on and I had to stay with him because he kept waking up, but now he knows it's bath, then cuddles, then into bed. Sometimes he wakes up as we're putting him down but I put a white noise app on my phone for him and he's almost always asleep straight away because he knows what to expect. He now sleeps from 6-6:30pm through to 12-1am most nights so roughly 12 hours (with a dream feed at 10pm). After that his timings are erratic but for a nearly 3 month old I reckon that's pretty darn good .

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    To be honest I think you're expecting too much if you think a 4 month old can sleep through the night. I know some do but I can guarantee that it is not standard. I don't mean to sound harsh but I would have given a limb for having a baby that slept 3 hours during the day and only woke once during the night. My only suggestion is to pop them into bed with you and see if you can get some more rest.

    I'm sorry if I don't sound very sympathetic, both my babies were cat nappers during the day, my DS slept ok during the night but my DD was a shocker and often only slept 2 x 20 mins during the day and woke every hour or so during the night for a feed.

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    My DD didn't sleep through until after her first birthday. She's almost 2 and still wakes in the middle of the night maybe once a week or so. I don't actually think that's unusual - a lot of other kids I know are the same.

    I think a bedtime routine is important, not based on a particular time but based on a set of activities that let bub know it's bedtime. A very relaxing routine at night and a simplified version for day sleeps. If bub wakes at 4am just treat it as a night feed, keep the room dark and quiet.

    Your bub will change it up on you again before you know it, trust me!

    Also, look up 4 month sleep regression.

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    Bec is right. I think you are expecting too much from your bubba.

    Anecdotally. My dd1 was doing 10-12hrs straight from 5wks till 6mths old. And then not again till 14mths old. Babies will sleep thru when they are ready and rushing them isn't good for you nor them.

    Btw my dd2 has never gone more than 7hrs overnight without a feed. She is 12mths old and perfectly normal behaviour.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ~Bec~ View Post
    To be honest I think you're expecting too much if you think a 4 month old can sleep through the night. I know some do but I can guarantee that it is not standard. I don't mean to sound harsh but I would have given a limb for having a baby that slept 3 hours during the day and only woke once during the night. My only suggestion is to pop them into bed with you and see if you can get some more rest.

    I'm sorry if I don't sound very sympathetic, both my babies were cat nappers during the day, my DS slept ok during the night but my DD was a shocker and often only slept 2 x 20 mins during the day and woke every hour or so during the night for a feed.
    Yeah I think you've been a bit harsh. The OP wasn't 'expecting' anything, she was just hoping for some tips to ENCOURAGE her bub to keep sleeping well. She never said she expected it.
    OP, keep doing what you're doing, but don't be too rigid with it. Your baby will probably go through a few rough patches, but it doesn't mean you've done anything 'wrong'. It's all a bit of guesswork unfortunately, but I second the suggestion of having a really good bedtime routine each night. Its worked really well for both of mine.

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    My daughter is now 18months old and still doesn't always sleep through the night... All bubbas are different and at that age they will sleep when they wanna sleep

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    My daughter didn't sleep through the night until she was 2 and then one night she just did! I have no idea why, we felt like we tried everything in the book, but I sense she was just ready in her own time, which didn't happen to coincide with my ideal preference! Lol

    For this baby I'm not having any grand expectations given our last experience, I figure for the first two years all bets are off! Personally I find it much easier to just go with the flow and not fight it so much, being flexible and accepting really helped us through the tougher times and seemed kinder on our wee babe too.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FearlessLeader View Post
    Yeah I think you've been a bit harsh. The OP wasn't 'expecting' anything, she was just hoping for some tips to ENCOURAGE her bub to keep sleeping well. She never said she expected it.
    OP, keep doing what you're doing, but don't be too rigid with it. Your baby will probably go through a few rough patches, but it doesn't mean you've done anything 'wrong'. It's all a bit of guesswork unfortunately, but I second the suggestion of having a really good bedtime routine each night. Its worked really well for both of mine.
    Thank you fearless leader for understanding, I was not EXPECTING a magical cure just some feedback and suggestions to encourage her. I've already been to 2 resedential sleep schools, had sleep consultant come out and been to pinky McKay sleep seminar, I get the tired signs during the day but she's gone from sleeping 1 1/2 hrs to only catnapping. Obviously I try to resettle her though its just easier now to get her up instead of the struggle. I don't believe in CIO and will not do it. I understand every baby is different though this doesn't make it easier when u are sleep deprived, have no support while hubby is at work and suffering pnd

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    Big hugs. I'm suffering PND too. Sleep deprivation just makes it so much worse. Everything I've read/been told says that you really need to try to get as much sleep as you possibly can. That must be really hard with an unhelpful partner. What time do you go to bed at night? Try to go to bed as early as possible, you need your sleep too. Because when you spend the day on the catnap merry go round that's exhausting too, spending all day doing nothing but putting your baby to sleep!

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