The bond is simply not there. Of course it was a long time ago, but I am certain there was a bond with my daughter before now. I'm hoping it's because I'm busy being a mum, have made a big move 7 hours away a few weeks into the new school year and had to enrol her into a new school and transfer everything to where we are now, and on top of that I had her birthday party and present to organise, finding activities to mimic the ones she was doing back where we came from, none of those things had to be done when I was pregnant with her. I moved house but that was a planned house to a bigger place so we had room to move, I was in a stable job that I'd been in for a long time, had childcare arranged with a back up plan of a nanny if needed, it was all organised and smoothe so I'm hoping it's that this is disorganised and chaotic and not that there's a problem between me and the baby. When I felt the bond between my daughter and myself being damaged, we started going on more little adventures together to recreate that bond. If the bond isn't instant with an unborn baby, how do you change that? How is that bond created if it isn't naturally occurring? Will it mean it will take longer to bond with the baby after the birth?
I know these are questions for the psychologist, but she has no kids so I thought it would be better coming from other mums.