Prior to having kids I would have judged....now I realise how quickly the cost can climb! Even doing a simple BBQ at my place for just family and close friends I've ended up spending close to $700 as we have a big and close family!
Now I'd say it would depend on the circumstances of the parents... If they are spending huge amounts at the expense of managing their day to day basics I would think they'd been foolish. If you are saving up for it then you are doing it wisely IMO.
We just went to a huge extravagant 1st birthday with bar and catering staff serving. Face painting etc. Everyone had a wonderful day and the grandparents paid. It was at their huge house and they can easily afford it. They wanted to make a big deal because its their 1st grandchild. No judgement from me, it was beautifully done.
Next weekend we have another first birthday. I expect this one to be much lower key. They are on one income (not high) and expecting another baby very soon which is already stressful for them. I expect to enjoy this one just as much.
If they end up spending loads I would be shocked and probably think they'd made life harder for themselves than they needed to. But it is their money, their choice...
Who cares what others think!! Do what makes you happy/will make your child happy as long as you don't go broke in the process
dd1's first bday cost about $3000 (for nearly 100 people)
second would have been in between 700-1000.
for her 3rd I will spend 700-800.
Presents are on top of those amounts!
excessive so some, yes, but for us it's money well spent!
honesly it's none if anyone's business if you spend $50 or $5000 imo
Last edited by F&A; 16-06-2013 at 16:35.
I don't think it's over the top, if you can afford it why not. For ds first birthday we spent $500 not including his presents. But we only had 6 kids all under 5 but 20+ adults.
Whilst I would never even if I could spend that much or close to it doesn't mean I would judge you. It's your child, their birthday your money so í has nothing to do with me.
We've always gone old school birthday fun. Musical chair, pass the parcel, pin the tail on etc. BBQ be it at home or at a nice park and tbh I think the only expensive thing has been the cake as I get them specially mad. The most I have ever spent of everything (cake food drinks decorations games stuff present invites bags etc) was $250 and Even that scared me lol
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