I actually always thought I'm not meant for children until my sister had two and I got to spend lots of time watching them grow from babies to cute little girls. And when I saw how quick they learn and that it depends on the parents how they will grow up, I just knew that I had to have one of my own, because I wanted to raise a child the way my parents never raised me.
I didnt want kids, actually I thought people with kids were insane lol
then one day I woke up and just had the urge that I was ready and should have a baby,
there is never really a 'right' time to have one, if you wat for the right time you'll never have one
I have always wanted a family. I had a girls name picked when I was 15 (which i now hate, and no i wasn't the type to try get pregnant as a teen) and when i met my man i just knew he was 'the one'. my son was born just before i turned 22, and he is the best thing that has ever happened to us. It was everything i imagined and more.
I'm a person that worries about finances, stability etc. Once I was in my early 30's and had reached my goals (stable job, own home, had travelled) that's when the inkling to have a kid really took hold.
Are you in a happy and stable place in your life? If you are and you don't feel the urge yet then perhaps you aren't ready for kids (yet).
I always swore I didn't want kids.
People told me I'd regret it if I didn't. My response was always that I could live with that, what I couldn't live with was regretting having kids after the fact.
I dated a lot of douches so it's possibly why I thought that way.
But also, like others, I wanted financial stability, my own home before kids and those things didn't happen until my 30s.
I met DF and 18 months in we agreed to have a baby. 6 months after that we actually tried at the right time in my cycle and along came DS when we were both 35
As @GucciDahling said, I was adamant I never wanted kids. People said I would change my mind when the group started having kids (it didn't), when I met a man who had kids (dated 4- one for over 2 years, nope not my thing), and a list of other things. None of which were true.
Then I met DH, I saw him with DSS and DSD. We moved in together after a few weeks of dating. He started talking about kids, I said ask me again in a year... but it was in the back of my head. He asked again. I said yes, but lets try when the kids are in school. Fast forward to 2013, we were not financially stable. 2014 all good, got Implanon removed. DH quit his job, on hold.
Dec 2014 off we go again.
He asked over and over all the time.
I love seeing him with kids. I love the thought of giving him more kids.
But I still don't think I want them for me, IYKWIM.... So, I was kinda right. i never said I wouldn't have kids... lol
That's how things usually go... You see how wonderful kids are and you want some of your own.
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