No way did I want kids .. Same with my man ( well until he met me .. Our first week of dating he told me I would be the mother to his kids ) .. We met when I was 24 .. No kids .. No way !
then around 27/28 I told him I wanted a baby .. He said me too ...
so we had our daughter a week before I turned 29 .. I am now preg with 2nd baby ... Due in under 4 weeks ... Last baby for us !
still not a huge kid fan .. Except of my own .. She is awesome ! ( hope next one is just as awesome )
It was not on dh's and my gender for discussion for many many years, not sure why really. I guess we lived in the moment a lot in those early years rather than looked into the future. After being together for 6 years before living together it wasn't until living together that we started talking about kids although we had bought a house together a few years before. Not sure it makes sense now I think about it but anyway... We did want to be married before kids though and we were but then getting pregnant wasn't as easy as we expected it to be and we have our 2 little boys via ivf. It's hard to imagine life without the boys, what did we used to do with all that time just us? In saying that though once we started the ivf journey dh and I made an agreement that if ivf didn't work for us then so be it as devastating as that would have been, we would have had to accept it because we didn't want children together if they couldn't be ours genetically.
For me, I knew one day I probably would start trying for a baby. I always knew I did want a daughter at some stage, but it was never a overwhelming urge. I assume it would have become one though as I got older and everyone around me started having children.
Probably because I was only 24 when I fell pregnant - and it was literally the result of my fiancé (now hubby) not using protection that month and saying "what ever happens, happens". And it happened.
To be honest when the reality hit that I had actually gotten pregnant, I was a bit freaked out - mainly about the birth. I soon got over it and enjoyed my pregnancy very much.
After she was born we both knew we had made the best rescission of our lives.
Dd is now 2 and I'm pregnant with our second, due 28/7 and we couldn't be happier.
So I think even if you do feel like you aren't sure, you will be sure you did the right thing when it happens. It's the best
Mummy to DD 21 months
DS due July 2013
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I was married 16 years and though my then wife wanted kids I did not. I loved kids just was not into having my own.
Then I saw a picture of my current wife. We had been chatting online but never met. Something switched on inside me and I knew I wanted her to have my children.
3 kids later here we are, married and happy. I wonder how I could have let it go.
Dp and I have been together about 4&half years and he has never wanted kids. (I'm 25 he's 29). I wasn't worried at the start then over the last 2 or so I changed my mind. He kept saying no to kids. So it got to a point where I told him I'm not waiting any longer!... So here we are now, 5 weeks til bubs due and he couldn't be more excited! He's going to love it!
I always knew I wanted kids. But I wanted to start my family after 30 year's old. I ended up having 2 within 15 months of eachother I was 24 and 25 respectively. Im now 31 and 32 weeks preg with number 3. I have zero regrets sometimes life has a better plan for you.
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I knew I wanted kids, but just didn't know when. Pregnant at 24 and I knew it was meant to be. Currently pregnant with #2 at 28 :-)
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When you really want them you will know. The idea of not having them will freak you out for a start and that is a good clue.
I didn't want kids at all until my husband. Even then I was in no hurry bc I didn't really like kids. I wanted a family (grown-up kids) but didn't know if I would enjoy being a mother. But I was turning 30 & we'd just got married and I didn't want to wait any longer than 30 if I was going to do it. So I just closed my eyes and jumped. Best idea ever. When my son was born everything changed. And loving my own child made me appreciate all children and now I also love spending time with other people's kids (when previously I found them incredibly annoying). I still prefer my peace and quiet and I'm not great at entertaining my son but I don't have to be. He's got Dad, day care, playmates, himself and soon a sibling. And I try my best, just a bit less energetic. You just don't know what it's going to be like for you until it happens. I'm a much better mother than I thought I would be.
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