You sound like me! I have been saying that I refuse to put myself in any parenting category or label. I think it is a way for people to make money from mothers. I gather most of us listen to our babies and they tell us what they want. I have tried many different things ans she always lets me lnow if she agrees to it or not! If I had a baby like my friend's that self settled from birth or was happy to have a little pat back to sleep waking only once during the night, then yeah, I wouldn't have to do any sleep training! You have listened to your baby and she has told you she needs help and you are responding.
Mia freedman has written a book 'the gift of sleep' with a baby whisperer. It seems pretty good. I read the intro and decided to get a BW over my house instead of trying to do it alone with the book.