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    Unhappy Need Advice- CC and 10 month old

    Never thought I'd try CC, but it's crunch time- DD needs to learn to self settle, for my sanity and hers; she has 15-30 minute day naps after I've rocked her to sleep in my arms (should be much longer) and will only sleep in her cot at night after she's fallen alseep in our bed- and then it's only for an hour or so until she wakes, realises where she is and cries until I bring her back into my bed. She's now almost 11 months old and we can't continue like this- DH and I aren't getting any sleep with her in with us
    Anyway, after researching CC, I've noticed that the advice given is to leave the room when letting them cry- but the problem is, DD still shares our room. Can it still work if we are in the same room overnight when she wakes? We can leave the room earlier in the evening, but at 2am I can't be in and out of my own room... Can it still work if I'm lying metres away from her? It'll be dark so she wont see us.. (we have no spare bedroom for her, until we move) don't know what to do, I hate having to even consider this, but I see no other way... am hoping after a few days-1 week she'll have it worked out and we can all get into a normal and happy routine.
    Not even sure how I'll go, I'm full of guilt an heartbroken when I hear her cry.. tried it tonight and ended up bringing her into my bed as it was too much I moved her into her cot once she had fallen asleep.
    This is tough

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    Can you sidecar the cot? Take down 1 side and attach it to your bed so she's sleeping with you but has her own space.

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    I would recommend Save Our Sleep by Tizzie Hall. I've just started the self settling techniques in it and its literally only been one day but my 4 week old DD did self settle twice.

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    It takes 3 days to break a habit!
    It may take longer because she is older but if your strong ur will work you will feel mean but you and ur dh need to sleep and have your own time.
    I was tough from week 3 w both my boys and people thought it was mean but we still love them but wanted then to self settle and have our bed to ourselves.
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    We have just gone thru this with our 6 month old- I'm happy to feed overnight but not hourly and he was cranky all day. We started putting him down in his cot awake at 6:30 and letting him cry- the longest he has cried has been 7 minutes. He now self settles for all his day sleeps and overnight is only waking 3-4 hourly. I truly believe sleep breeds sleep so an overtired baby will never self settle it's just breaking the overtired stage- I was a tough 5-6 days when we started but we are all so much happier- he is happier, I am not a zombie and his older sisters are happier because mummy has energy to play with them. I know a lot of people will be against letting a baby cry but truly we were at breaking point- we have 3 under 3 and between the other 2 waking once or twice and Nate waking all night we were truly wrecked

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    Quote Originally Posted by btmac View Post
    ETA just realised what section this was in - sorry OP I have nothing to say.
    I don't understand? What's wrong with the section I've posted it in? Is it that you're so strongly against CC? If so that's totally fine. If there was a "self settling" section, would that have been better? I'm not being a smart ar$e, honestly I'm not- but besides leaving her to sleep in bed with me and my husband until she's 3 years old, how else am I going to teach her to sleep/self settling techniques? It absolutely breaks my heart to hear her cry, I've never allowed it in the past- but I'm at a total loss.

    Quote Originally Posted by lovesushi View Post
    Can you sidecar the cot? Take down 1 side and attach it to your bed so she's sleeping with you but has her own space.
    That sounds good and Ihave tought about it, but feel that will not teach her how to self settle either, or improve her day naps.
    I just don't know what to do.

    I truly hate leaving her to cry, even at the small intervals experts recommened.
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    My DD was 6 months old and I too felt like you...ie no light at end of tunnel and an unhappy tired crying baby = unhappy moody tired mum!
    If I left my DD more than a few mins properly crying she'd vomit so I did the Babybliss patting/shhh'ing. Worked for us. Took about 5 days till she'd do it herself and id nearly lost my voice from shhh'ing so much, but there were no vomits and she was such a happy baby AND I felt great for teaching her something.
    I'm starting it this week with my nearly 5 month old DS.
    Good luck x

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    OP there is nothing wrong with where you made your post. I think that btmac realised what section they were in and because they are against CC had nothing to say to help you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FirstTimeMummy2012 View Post
    OP there is nothing wrong with where you made your post. I think that btmac realised what section they were in and because they are against CC had nothing to say to help you.
    And that's cool, I totally understand and respect that- I'd have said I was against it to not that long ago, but like I said, I'm at a loss and so sleep deprived that have to at least try it- we're not doing her any favours by allowing her think it's OK to sleep with us forever. It was fine when she was younger, but she's getting bigger and needs to learn to self settle.
    Thing is, she used to go into her cot on her own no probs- but around 5-6 month she just stopped.

    btmac- no disrespect at all, that's not what I meant. I just didn't know where else to post. I wouldn't say that I'm 100% for CC or against it, either- each to their own. Just trying to figure out where to go from here.. I guess I've trained DD to sleep with us and now have to undo that
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    Quote Originally Posted by Karen2010 View Post
    My DD was 6 months old and I too felt like you...ie no light at end of tunnel and an unhappy tired crying baby = unhappy moody tired mum!
    If I left my DD more than a few mins properly crying she'd vomit so I did the Babybliss patting/shhh'ing. Worked for us. Took about 5 days till she'd do it herself and id nearly lost my voice from shhh'ing so much, but there were no vomits and she was such a happy baby AND I felt great for teaching her something.
    I'm starting it this week with my nearly 5 month old DS.
    Good luck x
    I did the patting last night (she hated it and would just push my hand away, lol) and did the whole "ssshhh" thing, too.

    Basically last night DH and I got into bed and I put her down in her cot. She had just had a bath and bottle and was so sleepy. I turned her musical mobile on and gave her her glow worm toy as well. Also turned on her little glowing cat lamp. Anyway, she seemed happy (and didn't stand up, surprisingly) and at first just babbled to herself for the first 10 minutes. We didn't talk to her or make any noise- I really thought she was starting to settle- and then she started sooking, which lead to crying.. and then screaming. I waited around 3 minutes and then went over to her, patted her, "sshhh"ed her etc. But seeing me there, not picking her up, made her worse. So after a few minutes I picked her up for a cuddle and once she'd stopped crying, popped her back down. Well, she was in hysterics, to say the least. So yeah, after half an hour of putting her down, letting her cry and then picking her up, trying to soothe etc, she came in with us.
    Will just try again tonight, I guess.
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