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    Agree with all the pp's

    His behavior is not your fault you are doing your best and need to do what's best for you and your DS


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    Who wouldn't be depressed with a baby, sleep deprived and a w@nker of a husband??

    Seriously, I think the best solution is seperation. What kind of man makes a baby, then carries on like this? And how do you mess with his seed? He sounds like a narcissistic child tbh.

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    Quote Originally Posted by delirium View Post
    Who wouldn't be depressed with a baby, sleep deprived and a w@nker of a husband??

    Seriously, I think the best solution is seperation. What kind of man makes a baby, then carries on like this? And how do you mess with his seed? He sounds like a narcissistic child tbh.
    Exactly this.

    If he really wouldn't see his son just because you split up then I'm afraid your DS is better off without him.

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    Sheesh, he sounds like a tool..

    If this was me, I'd hurry that separation up and get on with enjoying life. It's too short to be around negative people.

    Good luck and you're not a monster.. You sound like a tired Mummy who has just had a gutful..

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    Huge hugs x Have you got anyone you can go and stay with for a few weeks and clear your head? Your husband is carrying like a complete pig and you do not need his manipulative behaviour or threats in your life.

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    And FYI I'm 34 and a single mum (also pregnant via donor sperm), so probably spinster territory. And I can tell you I would take spinster over your situation. Who needs that drama in their life?? I wouldn't want someone so negative and manipulative around my kids.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Wise Enough View Post
    I'm so angry at your husband on your behalf. How can he say such horrible things? And to say if you break up he's never going to see his son again?? It seems like really manipulative and controlling behaviour.

    You're not a monster. You're a sleep deprived mum with a husband who clearly has issues (or is just an @rse).

    It will get better, hang in there. I'm a solo mum and when it's just the two of you it's nothing but love. No one else to think about, no other relationships to maintain. You can spend all day cuddling your bub and have cereal for dinner with no judgment.
    I think this is pretty spot on.

    The 'lonely old spinster' thing is a total myth. Being single is awesome, nothing sad about it.

    I can't believe the things your husband has said to you.

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    I'm also a spinster and love my life, wouldn't trade it for anything

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    Thanks for your responses. Gosh, I hope I haven't offended anyone with the spinster thing. I just mentioned it as one of the thoughts I've been having. I do get mildly excited sometimes at the idea of calling all the shots. It kind of appeals to my control freak tendencies :-)

    I should have clarified, I am seeing a therapist for my PND, and have been since February, but I haven't really shared these feelings about my son with her. I'm a bit too ashamed, but maybe it's just time to be brave in lots of areas of my life, I think.

    Thank you again. Supportive words go a long way for me at the moment.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DesperatelySeekingSleep View Post
    Mrs Harvey-snap.

    I understand totally what you mean about feeling detached and the resentment feelings towards bub. I was actually going to make a similar thread but don't need to now.

    You are not a monster. My God I understand what you mean.

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    I hope you're feeling better today, DSS...


 

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