I dont think it is hypocritical AT ALL. <- completely agree here...
I can imagine the incredibly mixed feelings you are having, I think if it were me, I'd give myself a certain amount of time (say a week?) to just let the whole thing settle, let your emotions play out, and when you are feeling on an even keel again, then think dispassionately about the whole situation.
And if you can get some info from a 3rd party to help with your decision, more the better.
Family stuff can twist you in knots, and cause all sorts of completely contradictory feelings.