I'm now at 40+11. I thought I would be allowed to get to 40+14 before they would induce me but apparently they want me to have actually had the baby by the time I am 2 weeks over. Went in for our first visit today and was told they would like to induce tomorrow which I was not expecting at all and so am now freaking out.
I was initially planning to have a natural water birth at the birth centre but obviously if I am induced I'll have to be in the main hospital. Not ideal for me and totally not what I wanted so I'm pretty worried about what is going to happen.
So, I have a few questions.
1. I apparently have to go in and have gel in the afternoon then wait to see what happens overnight. Am I right in thinking that you are left in the maternity ward overnight then taken to the birth suite once labour starts? Does this mean I will have to spend my early labour in the maternity ward? The rooms are 4 beds per room and I do not like the idea of labouring with other people sharing the room. Or do you spend the night in the birthing suite?
2. While I am waiting overnight for the gel to work, is my DF going to be allowed to stay with me? Or will they send him home and make him come back in the morning? I am pretty phobic of hospitals and am terrified of being there by myself without him but obviously it would be outside of visiting hours and I might not even be in labour yet so what will happen with that?
3. I have heard that if you go into a public hospital as a private patient you can have your own room. Is this actually true? Does anyone know how much it costs? We have insurance but I don't want to go in as a private patient and have to pay out of pocket costs and not even get any benefits. The birth centre we wanted to go to only has private rooms so I wasn't expecting to have to share and I'm quite worried about it because I don't like having my privacy invaded and I get pretty anxious about it
4. With the birth centre, you only stay for 4 hours then go home. I know I will want to be home ASAP in my own space and my own bed but will they allow me to leave so soon after an induction?
5. Has anyone had an induction and not needed an epidural? I'm worried that once we have one intervention there will just be more and more and I'm terrified of having an episiotomy and forceps etc so I figure if I can avoid the epidural I'll be better able to push him out myself without any help.
6. We are 45 mins away from the hospital. After we have bub, I want DF to be able to stay with me until we go home. There are signs everywhere in the maternity ward that say no visitors between 12-3 including partners. So what happens if bub is born say at 11:30am, is DF going to be made to go home and leave me there right after I have bub? Surely they'd let him stay with us and having bonding time with our bub?
Sorry this is so long, I hope I can get some answers before tomorrow because I need to go in tomorrow morning and let them know what I've decided to do (I have told them I want to wait until 42 weeks but they want to push for induction ASAP).