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    Default Pain 'down there' after giving birth

    Good evening! I gave birth to my 10pound son 6 months ago. I was traumatised by the birth for different reasons and also suffered a second degree tear. DH and I have DTD a couple of times but each time It causes me so much pain. I feel as though he is tearing me in half. Now, I just don't want to DTD and poor DH doesn't like hurting me. Being my first born I have no idea if this is normal? If it is how long till it doesn't hurt anymore? Or should I be seeing a doctor?
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    That doesn't sound normal hun. I'd go see your Dr. I hard 2nd degree tears too and it was really sore until about maybe 14 weeks post partum. And then in some positions it still felt a bit tender till fairly recently. And now it doesn't hurt, but I can definitely 'feel' where the stitches were sometimes if that makes sense. I don't think it should hurt so much that you can't enjoy it at all.

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    Did you use lots of lubricant? Were you um aroused enough if you know what i mean?

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    Are you breast feeding? Sometimes breast feeding can affect your natural lubricant (sorry if that's a bit crass, tried to think of a better way to put it). I had an emergency c/s and I found DTD uncomfortable until recently, I'm breast feeding so need to use plenty of lube.

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    After my first I needed heaps and heaps of lube. I'd had an episiotomy and I was mega scared, I don't think we even tried until four months later. Heaps of lube!

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    Quote Originally Posted by FearlessLeader View Post
    That doesn't sound normal hun. I'd go see your Dr. I hard 2nd degree tears too and it was really sore until about maybe 14 weeks post partum. And then in some positions it still felt a bit tender till fairly recently. And now it doesn't hurt, but I can definitely 'feel' where the stitches were sometimes if that makes sense. I don't think it should hurt so much that you can't enjoy it at all.
    Thank you. It's good to hear from someone who had similar tears. I think I will go see my doc. We want to TTC number 2 soon but that won't happen if we can't get this sorted!!
    I understand how you can 'feel' where the stitches were. It's just not the same down there anymore!!!

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    Did you use lots of lubricant? Were you um aroused enough if you know what i mean?
    Haha yes. I pour almost the whole tube down there!!!! I'm getting too tense now because it hurts, so can't say I'm totally enjoying the moment.

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    Quote Originally Posted by misskittyfantastico View Post
    After my first I needed heaps and heaps of lube. I'd had an episiotomy and I was mega scared, I don't think we even tried until four months later. Heaps of lube!
    I don't think being scared helps the situation either.

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    Are you breast feeding? Sometimes breast feeding can affect your natural lubricant (sorry if that's a bit crass, tried to think of a better way to put it). I had an emergency c/s and I found DTD uncomfortable until recently, I'm breast feeding so need to use plenty of lube.
    Not crass as all, its facts!! Yes I'm breast feeding. I didn't know that that can happen. Interesting, thank you!!

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    My bub is 4 1/2 months and was only 7lb 9 and I'm terrified! It puts a lot of strain on our relationship :-(

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    Can I also suggest (and this is probably tmi) trying with you on top, so you can control everything? I still find I have to be um... A bit bossy about how things are done to make sure I'm comfortable

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    Quote Originally Posted by miraclemakers View Post
    My bub is 4 1/2 months and was only 7lb 9 and I'm terrified! It puts a lot of strain on our relationship :-(

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    It's very hard. I'm lucky my DH is understanding, but I know he's getting antsy. Like the ladies have said, lots of lube. Another friend told me to get drunk and just do it. If I wasn't breastfeeding I think that's what I would have done!!!! I think it's the first time that's the worst.


 

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