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    Default Austism or just really stubborn?

    I have posted on here a few times about my DS1 ( 28 months old) speech delay. In December last year he had grommets inserted as it turned out he glue ear in both ears. Before the op he didn't even say mum or dad. He now says mummy, daddy, dog, nanna, rain, pop, dog, cat, clock, car, hot, arm, hand, more, Harry, duck etc etc. He has started saying "mummy gone" when I go out. He still talks alot of jibberish but he is now saying alot more words. He knows all his body parts if we ask where they are he points to them all.

    Sometimes I can't help but still worry about Mild Autism. He is incredibly stubborn doesnt like help with things at all. He loves doing chores/jobs and doing things the "correct" way. For example when I take him to daycare he walks to the door and waits for me to press the security code in. But if someone is being polite and holds the door open for me he wont enter until the door is closed and I press in the code. When we go to the grocery store he pushes the trolley around (its not a kids trolley but a medium sized trolley) I am not allowed to touch the trolley to help steer it. When we get to the check out he puts all the groceries on the belt for me(I cant help). He remembers roads to places in the car and gets upset when he realises we arent going where he wants to go (Nanna and Pops). At daycare he will get the broom and start sweeping the sand back into the sandpit in the afternoon (this is what the teachers do) he remembers this by himself. He remembers what different cereal everyone eats and gets bowls and spoons for everyone at breakfast time. If he spills something he gets a tea towel and wipes it up. Picks his owns clothes out and throws a tantrum if we dont put on what he wants.If I havent started cooking dinner and he is hungry he will get the pots and pans out. If we are at a playground/playcentre and he finds rubbish he has to put it in the bin. The other day when we were at the indoor play centre a man forgot to pick up his wallet off a seat (I didnt even notice) and he went and gave the man back his wallet. He refuses to enter his new room at daycare, we have to go through his old room then into the new one ( door inside connects to new room).He even got upset one day I parked on the otherside of the carpark at daycare (threw a tantrum). He has a shower by himself (I sit beside the shower and watch. Its not because he doesnt want me touching him its because he wants to do it by himelf) he washes his hair and body by himself.
    He is the only child in his class at daycare that doesnt have a sleep. He has so much energy litterally constantly moving. He has really good co ordination can throw and kick balls. Jumping and he loves balancing on things. I guess I just worry in regards to speech and he seems to notice alot of things most kids dont. Or is it he is very independent/spirited?

    Sorry for the novel.

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    Wow! He certainly is independent! Both my kids with ASD really struggle with independence.
    Does he have anything else that makes you think autism? Rocking, flapping, toe walking?
    If what you have said are your only concerns, then no, it doesn't sound like autism. If there are other red flags though then it might be worth an assessment.
    My middle child is very independent and likes things done a certain way. I love the independence because the other 2 rely on me soo much. Lol

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    He walks on his tip toes maybe once a week or so if hes being silly and running around all happy this lasts maybe a minute or so then he stops. He doesn't rock or flap his hands. I guess we worry because he so stubborn that its impossible trying to distract him from something he really wants to do. He loves routine.

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    Every asd child is different and from what youve said it is possible. But speculation will only drive you crazy so best thing would be to write down your concerns and take them to a pediatrician or child psych.

    I can relate I have two children that show similar behaviours yet they are so so different from each other! One has suspected adhd/odd/asd (high functioning) currently going through assessment with psych and the other has speech delay possible hearing problems obsessed with food and tantrums over specific things like you cant turn the tap off for him when hes washing his hands HE has to do it etc and a funny limpy kind of run. It can be frustrating not knowing and waiting to find out!

    Best of luck x

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    UPDATE


    Ok so we have an appointment in November with a Paed.


    He is becoming so stubborn lately. He HAS to do everything himself or else its a tantrum. If we open the fridge for him he will close and re-open it himself. If I open his drink he will close it and re-open it himself. If we open his door to get in the car again he will close it and do it himself. At night when its shower time he will take his shirt off and then throw the shirt in the dirty clothes basket. He will stand about 2 meters back and do this, if lands on the edge of the basket he will get it and keep going till it lands inside the basket. Yesterday we got to the shops and he was trying to put his shoes on but was having alot of trouble so I helped and he had a meltdown.

    His attention span is terrible. He will get really excited about for example painting but can only focus on it for 5 mintues before he is off doing something else. He cant sit still constantly moving and on the go. Its so exhausting.

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    im an "old mum" my kids are 15 and 18..but in all honesty what you have written sounds to me like he is just a typical 2 year old... they love to do things their own way, tantrums when you "help" etc etc... I may be wrong but he sounds like my 2 when they where that age....

    all the best and I hope you get the answers you are looking for

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    Thanks... His behaviour is getting worse. He will not speak at daycare or listen to them at all. Even at home he hardly responds to his name. He also has poor eye contact. When he has his tantrums they are really intense, he absolutely loses it. The moment he wakes up we are on edge around him because doing the smallest thing can upset him

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    Sorry I need some where to vent. DS1 just the biggest meltdown. It was time to undress. Well holy moly. It broke my heart he was out of uncontrol when we removed his shirt. He did something he has nver done. He started pulling and scratching and his chest and stomach skin. He has marks all over his torso now he has calmed down now thank gosh.

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    Not responding to his name and lack of eye contact are definitely red flags.

    I'm glad you have an appointment, hopefully that will give you some answers. The assessment process is different depending on what state you live in, but do you know if the paed you are seeing can assess and diagnose?
    If you let us know what state you are in maybe someone here with experience can let you know the exact process so you aren't wasting any time.
    Hang in there! xx

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    I could have posted this about my DD (nearly 3 yrs old). She is very like your child, has to do everything herself otherwise it is meltdown central. She won't eat an apple with a stalk in it. She has to drink out of a certain water bottle, no others will do. She has a day time sleep routine that she has to get about five different things in her room in a certain order otherwise she will meltdown. Everyday she has to do certain things in order and tell me what she has to do by listing in order. Her attention span is not too long. I could go on.... But we are the same, it is like we are walking on egg shells around her as any little thing that she doesn't agree with will cause a meltdown. She went to a pead at the start of the year and he didn't think there was anything wrong but said to bring her back in a year if we are concerned. So really we are putting. It down to two year old behaviour. Good luck!


 

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