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    Anything parenting related will come judgements. Take your pick there's this, there's circing, there's vaccinating just to name a few. People will always have an opinion, it'll never be agree to disagree when it come to parenting related topics .... Don't get me wrong it would great if it did work like that



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    Umm no AM - not exactly just sharing her journey first off miss muffet said "cause it is important to them" maybe not intentionally but it is implying it was not important to mothers who ended up formula feeding for whatever reason.

    Also secondly she basically said "if you have the mindset that failure Is not an option than It will work for you" I was prescribed 2 different antibiotics, vitamins, the breast milk cookies- visited 2 lactation consultants and spent a fortune trying to get my breast milk back. Oh but if I had the mindset that failure is not an option my breast milk would have magically switched back on like a tap?

    I get persevering and I am very pleased it works for some but it is the opinion of those that did succeed that those who didn't just didn't try hard enough that I think left a sour taste in pp's mouth.

    Although I do completely agree with you that comparing stories does lead to toxic thoughts - probably not the best thread to share her thoughts on how happy she was to BF against the odds.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Meld85 View Post

    Although I do completely agree with you that comparing stories does lead to toxic thoughts - probably not the best thread to share her thoughts on how happy she was to BF against the odds.
    I don't think it was either considering its the celebrating bottle feeding section




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    Because I wanted to give my baby the best possible thing for him, and that's breast milk. There's no doubt about that. I fought so hard to make it work, and it didn't. Only to find out 2 months after he self-weaned that he had an upper lip tie, and the hundreds and hundreds of dollars of money I had spent seeing LC's were for nothing because no one, not even myself had picked up on it.

    I feel like a failure every time DS is unsettled or is having trouble falling asleep and I can't pop him on the boob to help him sleep... Because I didn't notice his lip. Not because of what other people say, but because of how I feel and what I wanted for him. But what some people say certainly doesn't help.

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    No, I am talking about the times when there is no other option. Like medical issues. I am not talking about mastitis, which I had twice and was not the reason I stopped.

    Quote Originally Posted by Little Miss Muffet View Post
    some women DO actually keep breastfeeding despite major issues that get in their way because it is so important for THEM, not anyone else. I take my hat off to those women. I encountered mastitis early on while bf my DS as he decided to all of a sudden sleep thru the night at 8 weeks old. I was bed ridden for days on end. DH had to cancel work to look after the kids for a week. It was "assumed" i'd not continue feeding him. I was horrified. I darn well kept feeding my boy and im sure glad i did.
    Sometimes if you have the mind set of "there is no other option" (for ME, not anyone else) then you have more determination to keep feeding.

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    Why is it so hard for some to realise that sometimes there is no other option? Just because it didn't happen to you and you persevered and got through it, great. Fantastic, that is great for you. But sometimes women really don't have a choice. Why is that so hard?

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    I swapped over to formula when DS was 4 weeks old. My milk completely dried up despite me taking medication, seeing two lactation consultants and my gp. I don't have the slightest amount of guilt. I know in the end formula was the right choice for us. Our first day of formula is evidence enough for me that we did the right thing. DS went from screaming constantly from hunger to settled, happy and content.

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    I think it all comes down to the individual.

    I know women who beat themselves up over trying everything to breast feed & I know women who crack open a tin of formula from the moment the baby is born & don't think twice.

    I think it all stems down to the women's expectations of herself & the pressure she is put under by other people.

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    I don't know if guilt is the right word, I felt disappointed when I couldn't bf DD. Disappointed in myself, that I wasn't the kind of mum who would keep fighting to bf. In the end, my poor skinny dehydrated little girl was losing weight and I was losing my mind. I have no guilt about feeding her, she thrived on formula!

    I am pretty hard on myself though. I usually assume that anything that goes "wrong" is my fault, be it feeding babies, fights with friends, anything. While I didn't feel guilt about feeding her (and then DS) formula, I sure as hell beat myself up about my inadequate body, that didn't do what it was supposed to!

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    Actually, after reading this thread, I am starting to realise - it wasn't guilt. It was sadness, and then anger over the things I have heard and read re formula feeding. It is sadness and anger - not guilt. That has taken me almost 7 years to work that out.

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