My DD was formula fed from 4mths old. Did i feel guilty? YES! because I WAS STARVING HER ALL THAT TIME!!! she was wasting away, unsettled and unhappy. i needed to feed her ASAP and my milk was not doing the job. Thank god for formula.
Did i feel sad? YES - because i really wanted to be able to do it, no one could explain why i couldnt.
In the end, it was a relief for everyone. DD was happy, thriving and actually SLEEPING! and i finally got to enjoy being a mum.
My DS has been exclusively breastfed sine birth and we are still going strong. I had to give it another shot. Am i crazy? probably. I have no regrets for putting dd onto formula. If i was struggling 2nd time around. id formula feed in a heartbeat. It's not worth the stress.
Last edited by Little Miss Muffet; 06-06-2013 at 12:29.
I agree, I think unless people have been in a specific situation, then how can you possibly know what you would do? I would never be so rigid in my views if I hadn't experienced something, kind of smacks of the whole "I would never have an abortion even if I was raped" kind of thing. HATE those types of comments!
I did feel guilty , some times I still feel guilty about it. Sad and disappointed. I think its stems from really whole heartedly truly wanting to, it for various reasons didnt pan out.
The judgements, nasty comments and evil stare downs don't help either
Sent from my ... Using the.... Does it even really matter
There are so many different reasons why a mum doesn't BF that how could anyone possibly throw all FFers in the same basket as 'you didn't try hard enough!' or similar. It shows a very ignorant attitude IMO of those who feel that way or need to push their own agenda
I thought I felt guilty at the time, but on reflection I think I was just really disappointed that it didn't work for us. I think I was getting a lot of messages from various places that suggested I should feel guilty so I assumed that's why I was upset. Every logical part of me knows putting DD on formula when we did was the best thing for her.
Sometimes I think women who choose formula do so having researched the pros and cons and in many cases experienced the challenges BF can bring. To assume they're uneducated angers me. I would argue that those who charge ahead with BF at all costs due to a disproportionate belief in the benefits need to be educated as well.
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