So back ground info
1 m/c, 1 termination at 19 weeks due to downs syndrome and heart problems that were already starting to effect growth and development so instead of continuing pregnancy and losing baby boy I decided he was perfect before he suffered. Now 13 week baby boy perfect born via c-section due to complications in theatre nearly died so then I ended up in ICU was very sick couldn't breastfeed and felt like I failed as a mum cos I couldn't see him only once a day when I was ok and he couldn't stay long due to it being the ICU I needed to rest. Fast forward now we are going great am seeing counsellor due to the effects but am feeling good until
Sunday a friend visited with her 2yr old she's 25 weeks pregnant never had any pregnancy problems been a great friend and she starts telling me how she hasn't really enjoyed her pregnancy due to my experiences and everything that's going on in her life
She's starts asking me how I feel bout all the stories on fb about the downs syndrome kids getting support and how it effects me, why did I name him and if I had any photos of him.
I didn't know what to say I got upset but not once did I sayi didn't want to talk bout it but I'm not one to offend ppl and be direct.
I ended up so upset that night my partner had to calm me down as I held it in and it spilt out as its still so very raw yes I've had counselling and yes I'm estactic I'm a mum to my 2nd son who was a surprise and I embrace every moment even tho trying sometimes as every parent knows.
My partner ended up sending her a MSG saying its inappropriate to ask or talk about our passed son, and how could she be so insensitive what if it was her etc.
I understand why he did say what he did and how he is protecting me. I support him.
Well her attitude is she can't see how she's upset me or offended me my partner was rude to say what he said about putting herself in my shoes just because we have our second son doesn't change that we still grieve for the one we lost.
I spoke to her she doesn't know how our conversation got blown out of porportion buts sorry if she's upset or offended me, I have explained its brought up a lot knowing I've made her pregnancy harder to enjoy because when I was pregnant with my 13 week old everyday I was on edge add hormones and needed to be reassured constantly.
So I've lost confidence in ppl even the closest that has been helpful and completely lost on what's left of my friendship