hi glittertg, do you have any support near you? family or friends you can call on for help? That is the first thing to look at. Can you go into a centerlink office and check out what you need to do, what paperwork you need to have before you make any decision about leaving him. His mother working in child welfare is of no importance, custody of children is usually given to the mother. If he has refused to communicate with you, to even listen to your concerns, he is making his choices and you have been told either do what I say or leave. If you can look at him, and not feel anything, not anger, not love, not hate, just blank, then it is time to walk away. hugs, and dont be afraid, you can manage on your own if you have to. thousands of women do. Marie.