Ex-DP and I have 50/50 custody of our daughter. She has just settled in to this and is happy. I have "moved" 3 times since leaving him a year ago, and am currently unemployed, not studying anymore (health issues) and living with Mum, my two brothers and my brothers girlfriend.
We have been told by our real estate to be out by June 21st. We have applied for four rentals, all to be declined. Mum found out today apparently she has had too many "arrears" notices - all of which have not been within the last 4 years or so, they've all been before that, but our real estate are jerks (and when we met the owners for the first time they agreed - although we don't have their personal details). So it isn't looking good for Mum getting a rental.
My brother and his girlfriend are both employed and able to get a rental (I imagine) by themselves. Neither have a rental history. My other brother is not working, and is on Job Seeker (but due to health reasons hasn't been forced to seek work, just have appt's at job agencies) so isn't really able to support himself. I get PPS, FTB A & B and CS. I would (very tightly) be able to manage around $200/week in rent. Just. I don't have bond, but DP (who lives interstate - we don't share finances or anything like that so I still am absolutely a "single mother" in the sense of the word) is happy to lend me bond money. I don't have any source of income aside from Centrelink, however am looking for full-time work. I have a Cert III in Aged Care - however with my daughter I can really only look at community work as the hours with facility work are really hard!
Here is my question... We HAVE to be out by June 21st, all of us. Am I an awful person for looking at relocating to possibly a share house (or if I can be accepted an NRAS house - I have had and broken a lease once before however so don't know/like my chances) to safeguard myself and my daughter from having to either be homeless, or live in an extremely undesirable area?
I want to KNOW that we are safe, and have a roof over our heads. We will struggle, at least at first, but I need to know she will have a roof over her head. I feel for Mum, and she will essentially have nowhere to go (my sister will probably have to take her and my other brother in).
I guess I feel like a traitor, and feel really guilty. But my daughter needs to come first and shouldn't be disadvantaged because my parents before she was born were unable to pay rent in full or on time at some point.
My other question is, what kind of support services are available for single parents? I've had and broken only one lease in my lifetime - my housemate was awful and I was practically supporting her and ran myself broke so had to move home. I've had one awful experience house-sharing before where the other housemate and I had to make a run for it at 11pm with my daughter as he has sexually harrassed her and was really unsafe to be around (passed out drunk out the back in the middle of winter shirtless - after harrassing this girl). She reported him to the police - hence my reluctance to share a house. Although it is definitely the most affordable option.
So, essentially: WWYD???