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    and then she got in his face and said "you're being a baby! Are you a baby?! Do we need to get you nappies?!".
    IMHO, this woman should not be around children. Are you sure this person is a professional as opposed to someone who has just hung up her shingle? As we have an unregulated industry here there are a lot of the latter around who are woefully ill suited to the job. Sounds like you found one of them.

    In addition to what others have written, if she had been sourced from an agency then I would report the reason for non employment.

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    OK, I'm surely going to show my extreme lack of experience with young children here, but, I don’t really get what is so wrong with what she said. To me it just sounds like she was calmly telling him that he wasn’t behaving like a ‘big boy’, and that whining and crying wouldn’t get him what he was after. What would have been a better response from her?

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    No not okay, that would be it for trial done, see ya later.....simple as that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Meg2 View Post
    OK, I'm surely going to show my extreme lack of experience with young children here, but, I don’t really get what is so wrong with what she said. To me it just sounds like she was calmly telling him that he wasn’t behaving like a ‘big boy’, and that whining and crying wouldn’t get him what he was after. What would have been a better response from her?
    What's wrong is that she got in his face and belittled him and his feelings. Kids get tired and they get upset and sooky, unable to express themselves and that's ok because they're KIDS. We are the adults and it's up to us, who have the emotional maturity and ability to express ourselves, to suck it up and deal with it.

    Belittling a child is never ok, not for a parent and certainly not for a carer though I use the term 'carer' loosely in this case.

    ETA - a better response would have been a caring one ie 'oh mate ,I know you're tired. Can you take a few deep breaths for me? There now, what can I do to help?'

    Btw, from the OP I don't think it sounds like she was 'calm' at all.
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    Quote Originally Posted by loodle View Post
    I have never had a nanny but this is unacceptable, if this is what she did in front of you I would hate to think what she would be like when you when you aren't there.
    Totally agree!

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    I don't think it's appropriate at all. I think she made an error in judgement about what is an acceptable way to speak to a child.

    Did you let her know that you don't speak that way in your family and why. e.g it's patronising? You might have felt a bit thrown by her comment though which is understandable.

    I know this sounds harsh but I think if you don't take her on, you could tell her why. It may be good feedback for her and actually assist her it the future.

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    She would not be getting a call back! Someone that understands children would never say something like that

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    Quote Originally Posted by Meg2 View Post
    OK, I'm surely going to show my extreme lack of experience with young children here, but, I don’t really get what is so wrong with what she said. To me it just sounds like she was calmly telling him that he wasn’t behaving like a ‘big boy’, and that whining and crying wouldn’t get him what he was after. What would have been a better response from her?
    Mm. I know it's already been answered, but another way to look at it is if I'm exhausted, hungry and at the end of my tether, I'd not enjoy being spoken to that way. I don't really know any adults that would. However, as an adult I'd have the capabilities to tell her exactly where to go. I think children always need to know that their feelings have been taken into account and understood, and telling someone they're a "big boy" and therefor aren't allowed to express themselves when they're upset is a bad way to go about teaching them the appropriate responses and behavior in different situations. But, that's just me.

    In answer to the OP, it's unacceptable and I would have asked her to leave immediately.

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    Nup, I think she really blew the job interview! She'd be better suited working with inanimate objects methinks...

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    Was she playing?

    I know it's still not ok but all of my family and some friends do the same to kids when they are crying, its in a joking voice.

    As a nanny she shouldn't have done it, but she might have thought it was harmless.

    She got a few phrases in so I'm guessing you didn't pull her up on it so therefor she still thinks it's ok to do?


 

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