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    I'm so sorry for your loss hun. You were always going to have to breakdown and really grieve for your babies, it's just come at a time much later than most would expect. Sending hugs for you

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    They say time heals but when it comes to grief, I don't think this is true, not in my experience, anyway.
    For me, I'm still thinking about grief counselling- is that something you've considered?

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    Maybe it took two years to fully start grieving because you have been running on adrenaline and now that life has sort of slowed down... It's all hit you like a semi trailer. Give yourself permission to grieve and as others have said... You can still love your ds as well as grieve the loss of your twins. They don't cancel each other out as they are both a part of you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Atropos View Post
    They say time heals but when it comes to grief, I don't think this is true, not in my experience, anyway.
    For me, I'm still thinking about grief counselling- is that something you've considered?
    Yes I went to a psychologist to help deal with my postnatal depression and anxiety and have thought about going back but I think I just need to let the wall come down and let the grief come out, if I struggle to come through to the other side of this I think I will definitely go. Thank you everyone

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    Quote Originally Posted by loodle View Post
    Yes I went to a psychologist to help deal with my postnatal depression and anxiety and have thought about going back but I think I just need to let the wall come down and let the grief come out, if I struggle to come through to the other side of this I think I will definitely go. Thank you everyone
    Be kind to yourself. I don't fight my grief anymore, and I do feel better for it. It's natural, it's a process. It still sucks though

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    Hugs loodle, that's a massive 2 years you've had. You absolutely have every right to grieve.

    I have no experience with your loss I'm sorry, but I can empathise on the guilt associated with it. I've recently split with exDH and after what I now know, I feel as though I've totally wasted 8yrs of my life & deeply regret marrying him.

    BUT....I then feel guilty for feeling this way (even though I can't help it) because if I was never with DH, then I wouldn't have my 2 gorgeous DS's. So when I wish I'd never met him, my irrational guilt assumes that means 'wish I didn't have my sons'.

    Allow yourself to grieve your twins, it doesn't make you love your DS any less.


 

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