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    Default Daycare- whinge/advice appreciated!

    My son started at FDC for two days a week in February, just after turning two. Initially he LOVED it, was so excited to go, didn't want to leave etc. Since then, two of the children he really enjoyed playing with have left and the majority of other children are younger than him and not terribly entertaining for him.

    I went away for a weekend last month, which is the longest I have been away from my son. He was happy enough while I was away, he stayed with my parents, but he has been really clingy ever since. Since I went away he has decided he hates daycare. He will cry and tell me he doesn't want to go, he is hysterical when I try to leave, or I will get a phone call an hour after dropping him saying he is distressed, and so I (obviously) go and pick him up.

    The last few weeks he has spent maybe 10 hours at daycare. I am doing a Bachelor online at the moment, and I am really struggling to find the time to study without daycare. This morning I stayed with him for almost two hours, he was totally fine and happy while I was there but when I tried to say goodbye or sneak out he was hysterical, I gave up. Tomorrow I'm going in to sign the forms to withdraw him, as it really isn't working any more.

    The options are either drop a unit, which I'd prefer not to do as we are living with my parents currently, I need to finish my degree and get us out of here before the little sanity I have retained thus far is gone., or find somewhere else. The lady who was minding him is one of my closest friend's mum, I have known her for the past 18 years. I am really uncomfortable with the idea of Childcare centres and trusting strangers in caring for my son, but think perhaps an environment with lots of little ones around my son's age may keep him happy and entertained.

    Anyone changed FDC/Centres and had their child respond positively, or is this unlikely to help as he seems to be going through a very clingy stage?

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    Hi
    Saw noone replied so thought u would say what happened with us.

    We started at a daycare centre and my son didnt like it at all but he was a baby around 10m so he would just get upset. Then we changed to family daycare and he is looked after sooooo much better. He still cries to go there but when I pick him up he is so happy even singing and babbling on the way home. Very happy boy.
    Have you tried getting out of him why he doesn't like it. Is it his friends have gone? I suppose if it was about not having kids his age then go to a centre but I will be avoiding them. Just didnt look after or change my baby often enough. Always came home with nappy rash.. Food in his ears etc so my experience was a bad one.

    Hope your little one is just going through a clingy stage. Sounds like the Fdc lady being close to u is a very safe place

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    Did you check with the carer about how he was after you left?

    Sometimes kids make a tremendous fuss - but about 2 minutes after Mum is out of sight, they kind of don't care anymore and are fine. Could that be the case?

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    Can you try a daycare center so everything is the same day in day out. They do go through phases though. I just keep sending him and every time I pick him up he's happy. Only judge the day by pick up or by what they tell you, my boy cried every day for 1 year but stopped by the time I got down the road.

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    Thanks for the replies! I ended up withdrawing DS from daycare. Unfortunately most days he didn't improve after I left, I ended up getting phone calls not long after leaving to say he was hysterical. FOB is of the opinion I should have 'made' him go, and he will be spoilt if I 'let him get his way', as is my (childless) sister I think I'll call a few centres and look into FDC with children closer to his age

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    I hope you can find a happy solution. Thanks for the update.

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    I worked in Early Childhood for 8 yrs & from my experience it takes a 2yr old longer to settle in than a younger or older bub. At 2 they are well aware you are leaving them & it takes longer for them to get absorbed in play (ie forget mum has left).

    Find somewhere you are comfortable with & persevere, before long he won't want to come home! I once had a bub scream on & off throughout the day for a couple of months before they settled in.


 

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