So, DH and and I now have three kids and we STILL can't agree on who to leave them to if we die!!! This conversatioon has been going on since before DD - 5 was born and now we just agree that we will NEVER agree. I want my sister - 35 not married, doesn't own her own house , a few issues but has the absolute same philosophy and values as we do for raising children and loves my kids as though they were her own - she will drop in for just 10 minutes to have a play with them then be on her way if that's all she can spare. And they love her - when we talk about our 'family - as in me, DH and the kids - they always remind me to add aunty L. DH thinks she has shown no responsibility however I know that she could step-up if she needed to. My Dh wants his sister - she has two kids 16 and 7 - , her partner ( not the fathers of either child) is an immature 24 years old ( she is 41) , her daughter is about 10 kg over weight, has grown up watching so much TV ( had one in her room from age 3 - with unlimited viewing) she speaks with and American accent and vocabulary - seriously!! People think she is american, She does not value education, travel, healthy eating etc, etc. I won't go on, only to say she is opposite to us. Plus she lives in a horrible, violent town 1500 k's from where we live. My sister lives here. DH won't budge, I won't budge - so does anyone know how we write a will? This is the big issue - we have a lot of assets and need to do one but avoid it because we can't agree on this one thing.