We are planning a child free wedding. Neither DF or myself wants to have kids there, mainly because most of the kids we would have to invite are not the best behaved and tend to just get hyper at special events, and also because there are so many kids on his side of the family that we would be spending another thousand dollars at least just to feed them all.
So, there are a few potential problems here. We decided that with his nieces/nephews/cousins etc that we would invite the ones that are over 16. There are only about 4 of them, but one of his sisters has 7 kids, and this would mean we would be inviting 2 of her older kids and not the others. My plan is to just write the names of the ones that are invited on the invitation but I wonder if we should maybe mention something about no kids under 16 just in case they don't realise the others aren't invited.
Also, we invited everyone's kids to our engagement party so I'm not sure if that will confuse people with the wedding. If we just put the parents names it might be confusing? So again, should be make it clear on the invite that kids aren't invited?
And one last thing, our bub will be about a year old by the time we get married and we plan on taking him to the wedding, plus we will have another friend's little girl as the flower girl. Are people likely to get annoyed when they are told not to bring their kids but see that we have allowed these two?
Sorry this is long, any advice appreciated!