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    Can anyone give some advice on getting my 6 week old boy to sleep in his crib! He will be fast asleep on my chest and as soon as I put him down, he screams.. This is occurring day and night and this is one tired mummy!!

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    I too am having a similar issue with DD who is 10 weeks. Some nights she is good and will sleep in her bassinet & others (she is on my chest as I type this (since 3.30)) she won't go down. I have learnt to just ride it out. I have set up 'camp' on the lounge so I can get some sleep but mostly try & get comfy with her in bed & enjoy the cuddles.

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    This is pretty common at this age.i would suggest either going with the flow for now & feeding him to sleep on the bed, then rolling away or using a carrier.

    Or If you want him in the crib & to stay there he needs to fall asleep there. Swaddle him tight and put him down sleepy but awake. Pat or rub his tummy while shushing until he's asleep, if he needs it. If he doesn't protest leave him to fall asleep happily on his own. Dont worry if he's in there for half an hour awake but not crying. Being content awake in the cot is good - its how they learn to self settle.

    Good luck!

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    Put a heat pack in the crib and take it away as u put him in the warm spot.

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    Quote Originally Posted by grumpybump View Post
    If you want him in the crib & to stay there he needs to fall asleep there. Swaddle him tight and put him down sleepy but awake. Pat or rub his tummy while shushing until he's asleep, if he needs it. If he doesn't protest leave him to fall asleep happily on his own. Dont worry if he's in there for half an hour awake but not crying. Being content awake in the cot is good - its how they learn to self settle.

    Good luck!
    ^ This. If bubs does cry, leave him for 2-3 minutes, then go back in and do the pat/rub and shush. Then try the crying for 2-3 minutes again for the next sleep and go back in to help again if he's still crying.

    id suggest a pre-nap ritual too, so he knows what comes next. I'd suggest a cuddle, sing a song, put on some white noise (I set a radio to quiet static), wrap him then put him down and say something like 'sleep tight. I love you' and leave the room to do the above.

    Id also recommend a comforter, it can just be a small piece of bamboo blanket or coth (just make sure it's breatheable) that has your perfume on it, or even put it up your jumper to get your natural scent on it that you place next to him.

    good luck! Let us know how you go!

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    It is not recommended you use controlled crying on babies under 6mths old.

    Please do not leave your six week old baby to cry.

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    Will he settle in his bassinet on his tummy or side? Obviously only while you're there patting him, then once he's asleep gently roll him onto his back before you leave his side.

    DD was a refluxy baby and hated being on her back.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rose&Aurelia View Post
    It is not recommended you use controlled crying on babies under 6mths old.

    Please do not leave your six week old baby to cry.

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    I'm not suggesting controlled crying, just giving bubs a chance to put themselves to sleep for a short window. 2-3 minutes of crying isn't too long and if it doesn't work, go in and help bubs to get to sleep and don't leave until they are asleep.

    Some babies at that age can put themselves to sleep, not many I know but it is possible, so worth a try in my mind. In fact I'd imagine more babies could do it if parents just tried for a tiny window of time. But that's just me, I know it's not for everyone.

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    Allie Pallie wasn't describing controlled crying.

    Anyway, at this age my DS would only sleep in a wrap carrier, or me bouncy on a Pilates ball. But wasn't feasible at night so we had to get him to fall asleep in the crib. I also felt that he was getting annoyed at me. He would cry a bit and would have to pick him up to calm down and I realised he actually needed to cry for a couple of minutes. I couldn't tell his different cries at the time so I needed to let him go for a minute to see if he was just trying to get himself to sleep.

    Lots of patting and shushing was involved. I also use white noise. I use an app on my iPad.

    A good wind down routine is good too. Back then we would wrap in a double swaddle, close the blinds, sing a lullaby while watching a night light then put him down.

    It does take time as they learn that when you do this routine it is sleep time. I did it before every nap and for bedtime.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Allie Pallie View Post
    I'm not suggesting controlled crying, just giving bubs a chance to put themselves to sleep for a short window. 2-3 minutes of crying isn't too long and if it doesn't work, go in and help bubs to get to sleep and don't leave until they are asleep.

    Some babies at that age can put themselves to sleep, not many I know but it is possible, so worth a try in my mind. In fact I'd imagine more babies could do it if parents just tried for a tiny window of time. But that's just me, I know it's not for everyone.
    But that's exactly what controlled crying is- leaving your baby to cry for a set period of time (ie 2-3 minutes)

    OP my DD did this. Its exhausting I got her used to going down in the cot by cradling her in my arms, patting her bottom until she was drowsy, then putting her in the cot and patting her until she was asleep (or 9 times out of 10, cried!) If she woke up I would sometimes try again and sometimes just leave her to sleep on me. The whole idea is to just get them used to the concept that the cot is where you go for sleep. For the first little while, they probably won't sleep in there at all. But if you're persistent and try each time you put them down, they will eventually get it.
    At night DP and I would take turns sitting up and holding her. So I would go to bed at 8.30 and DP would hold her, then at the 2am feed I would take over and hold her till morning. So we were getting about 5 hours sleep, at least.

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