I have a 4 year old daughter and for the past year or so i have been in and out of her life (which i regret everyday) since my seperation now divorce. My ex and i did not treat each other well towards the end and seperation was the only option as we really should never have been together as long as we did neither one of us had the courage (or sense) to leave this relationship. When i left my ex got everything that we had accumalted together with no fight put up by me at all. I walked away with nothing more than i walked into that relationship with.
I am living in sa on a perm basis and my daughter lives about an hour or so away. I have beenmnths before back here for about a year (2 mnths before christams 2012)and yesterday was the first time i have seen my daughter in person. My ex wanted us to do mediation in order to sort out a parenting plan which ended up in me not saying what i truly wanted cause of my absence and the thought that i might not see my daughter if i did so. I have now said to her i want to see my daughter once a week (sun) and cause i livein the country and her in the city i have worked out a neutral drop off point which is equal distance for both of us to avoid the i do more argument which was met with some confrontation. I pay my child support and skype her twice a week. She knows who i am and is comfortable with me.
I have been made out at times to feel like a bad and irresponsible dad and in some regards i agree and in all the others i dont.
Am i being unreasonable in asking her for one day a week access and to meet me half way in the driving?