As someone who has bf 3 babies anywhere and everywhere I don't agree. Yes it's incredibly natural, but it's just basic manners. It's just letting someone who is performing a service for you know what you're about to do - she didn't need to ask permission. I have a good friend who works in an industry like this and I know it gets up their nose when people treat them like they don't exist.
Just because you're a bfeeding mother, you don't stop respecting other people, you're still required to be polite, considerate, respect the other person. I never started feeding my baby in the middle of someone servicing me, not without telling them I need to. It reminds me of when I got a scan done and my baby was screaming for a feed, I asked him to stop because I needed to feed my baby, is it ok if I do while you continue, and he said yes. if he said no I'll wait till you're done I'll go see someone else that is perfectly acceptable. He never said get out, stop feeding you can't feed in here, cover up etc. It's just common blardy courtesy, just because you're a mum doesn't mean you stop respecting other people.
So... Say back in the 1960's when Rosa Parks (an African American) was told to give up her seat on the bus for a white man... Would you have told her "harden up its not the end of the world"?
If everyone was apathetic like that we'd still have segregated pubs, women would still be tied to the kitchen sink.
Good on the mother I say for not putting up with crap from a childish, narrowminded hairdresser. Actually, by refusing their second rate apology she showed more balls than if she just bent over and accepted being treated like a second class citizen.
I've said it before and is say it again.
If a hairdresser can't cut the hair of someone who is quietly feeding a non wriggling baby then they are either:
1) a real bad hairdresser or
2) a childish narrowminded person.
Either way they're a ****.
Also I'm no feminist by any stretch of the imagination but I can't believe the lack of understanding and support for this breastfeeding mother. Just because she didnt react how y'all would have. It's Lindy Chamberlain all over.
VicPark I don't see it like that at all.
I have read commentary from both the mother and the salon. I'm a bit confused- if the mother is telling the truth, which thus far, the salon has confirmed, then how is she painting anyone as anything? She has described the actions of the hairdresser and salon (as confirmed by the salon) and how it made her feel (which is subjective and we are not in a position to tell her she "felt the wrong way" iykwim). Why should she try to make them sound better? There is no onus on her to do so. So far, the salon has not denied the incident and all the owner has said was she left her to breastfeed and that it was her personal choice to do so, and that he himself has cut hair while a mother bf'd her child.
Also, why are you allowed to make assumptions (like that it was a safety issue, that it was not discriminatory, that the mother was rude and obnoxious, that the junior was more than capable of finishing the cut, that the mother is of bad character- just to name a few things you've said) but when I give an opinion based on what all the articles say and what the legislation says, you tell me I wasn't there and wouldn't know?? Unless there's something you're not telling us, you also weren't there!
My main point is, to DENY someone a service because they are breastfeeding is indeed considered discrimination. I would have a much easier time believing this was not such an incident if the hairdresser had said "I can't cut your hair while you bf due to OH&S" as opposed to nothing at all, followed by "privacy reasons" when questioned.
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