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    Default Our little man - born at 27w after 8 yrs of IVF

    I am not sure where to start or if this is even the correct forum but I don't have anyone to talk to who has / may have been through something similar. After 8 years of IVF on donor eggs and one previous MC my wife fell pregnant for the 2nd time. We had a bleed at 6 weeks and feared the worst but held on until 12 weeks when she had another bleed. After a short stay in hospital with no further issues she was discharged and all was well until 24 weeks when she had yet another bleed. After another short stay in the Mater Mothers she was discharged and returned to my in laws house which was closer to the Mater than where we live. Yesterday morning she experienced more bleeding at approx 3am and was rushed to hospital by ambulance - 27 weeks to the day. There was no more bleeding after she arrived and baby was doing fine, CTG showed no problems so we were admitted and an ultrasound ordered. We went down for the ultrasound at approx 12pm and the scan resulted in no major surprises. Baby was fine, moving and had grown since the last scan. The specialist reviewed the scan and agreed that there was nothing to be concerned about and that we would return in three weeks for another scan. We returned to the ward were my wife had lunch and proceeded to lie down at which point she started to bleed. This time it did not stop. The rest of the story is a bit of a blur, within minutes there was a team in the room as she bled out, a CTG was attached straight away and we could still hear a healthy heartbeat in the baby. She was rushed to theatre only to find that there were no free surgical theatres so we headed for the birthing suites. Another CTG was attached and baby was still beating away. I could see the shear terror in my wifes eyes as she worked out that the blood loss meant that she was in a severe situation. I dont know who pulled the person out of theatre but we got moved into a full surgical theatre, a move that we would later understand was a factor in saving my wife's life. The baby, a little boy, came out 8mins later at 13:48 and was a nice pink colour and was almost breathing on his ow. He was moving, wee'ing and stable. I was brought into the room and got to hold my 27 week old son's hand for the first time - I was in shock. I asked about my wife and was told that they 'were working on her'. I later found out that they were trying to save her life. Two anaesthetists, a urologist, a gynaecological oncologist, our OB and a team of nurses and midwifes worked for 3-4 hours to stop her bleeding. She lost over 8 litres of blood in surgery and had over 10 litres of othe rblood products. I went to the NCCU with my boy not knowing if I would see my wife again When I saw the OB an hour later I was told that she was not doing so well and they were still working to save her. By about 7pm I was able to go to the ICU and see my wife - I crumbled. She looked like she was held together with sticky tape and even then, barely hanging on to life. She was heavily sedated and ventilated but was stable. This morning I returned to her, still ventilated but awake. I showed her a photo of her little boy - it was the most heart crushing moment of my life ( I am mopping up tears as I write this) to see her point to the photo, and then to her heart - I already knew she loved this little man but I knew she was proud. The little one was breathing air, no O2, and whilst assisted on a ventilator was doing well. He weighed 940g at birth. This morning his little ventilator was removed and he started breathing on his own. Soon after, mums ventilator was removed and she was taken off the sedation and gradually came back to me. We were able to say "I love you" to each other and decided on a name. He had a great first day in this world and I had the opportunity to feed him, via a tube, his first taste of his mums colostrum to get him started. Mum has still not seen her boy. I am now trying to work out what is in store for our little boy, it breaks my heart to see him so small, not knowing what happens next. Mum should be discharged from ICU tomorrow to begin her recovery from major surgery and to see her little boy for the first time. We had never discussed the possibility of my wife dying during childbirth, I had never once given a thought to the possibility of living my life without her. We came very close yesterday and if not for the team here at the Mater Mothers that would most certainly have been the outcome. To the midwives, anaesthetists, urologist, oncologist, theatre nurses, NCCU nurses and of course our wonderful OB - without you my life would have been destroyed yesterday. Because of you my wife survived and I have a baby boy. Words will not ever express our gratitude. I know we now have a battle on our hands and would love to hear of anyone else's experiences with a 27 week baby in the NCCU.
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    I have no experience with this, but stay strong and you are in my thoughts xxx I wish you all great health and happiness.

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    I couldn't read and not reply. Congratulations on the birth of your boy though it seems like a weird thing to say with all you and your wife have been through. I wanted to say that I had a Bub in NICU late last year at the Mater mothers. .. and sometimes she is in picu there too. The doctors and nurses there are amazing. .. your little guy couldn't be in better hands. There are other people on this forum who can share amazing stories of their pre term baby's survival which I'm sure will give you much hope, it sounds like he's doing awesome already. Wishing your wife a speedy recovery and all the strength in the world to your son.

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    Congratulations on your precious boy but I'm so sorry to hear about his early and traumatic arrival

    Unfortunately I can relate to the story on many levels - I suffered a full placental abruption and haemorrhage at 25 weeks and had a crash c-section to deliver my baby girl who weighed 635g.

    My blood loss was not as severe as your wife's though and I can't imagine what you must have felt seeing her ventilated in the ICU... I know my husband's hour without any update on me was strain enough for him so what you have been through is so traumatic, it's going to take a long time to process.

    How wonderful that your son is breathing air and has been extubated, that's so so promising.

    Please feel free to PM me with any questions you have - I have lots of experiences I could share of the overall journey but at this early stage just keep taking things one day at a time, for your own sanity.

    I'll be thinking of all three of you xx

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    Just wanted to say thinking of you, your wife and your beautiful son.

    I hope she makes a full recovery and bub is ok xx

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    Congratulations and massive hugs to your and your whole family.Our stories start of similar, we have been ttc for 8 years and finally become pregnant on IVF cycle 9 late last year. Since 13 weeks pregnant I have experienced many, many bleeding episodes including 4 that put me in hospital with blood transfusions etc. The day my DH had to call me ambulance due to my collapsing from massive blood loss at home was pretty scary and certainly shook him up a lot. I can only imagine what you must be going through as your experience is so, so much worse.I am currently 28 weeks along and we have our fingers crossed that all stays together for a lot longer. We have been warned if I bleed again that I will probably have to deliver and your story has just made that prospect very real to me.Take GM01 up on her offer, she is a wealth of knowledge and support of what happens in NICU.Wishing you all the best on your journey. There is heaps of support on bubhub and always someone available for a chat.

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    your wife and son couldnt have a better husband/father. You sound like you are an amazing support and that in itself that will aid them in recovering. Stay strong for them but make sure you take care of yourself too. ask Questions, vent, cry, yell, do what ever it is that you feel will help you get through this traumatic event.

    i might also suggest that you talk to a.trusted person about this. dont bottle it up, thats a good way of losing it and that wont be good for anyone.

    i will keep my fingers crossed that your wife and your precious boy pull through.
    sending hugs, strength and healing your way. Xx

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    Congrats on the arrival of your handsome little man. Sending you all big cyber hugs and hope that your journey is more smooth sailing from here on in, you have already endured so much. This forum is a wonderful support network with loads of helpful people with all sorts if difference experiences and advice.
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    and congrats on the birth of your son. He is simply beautiful!!

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    Congratulations on your little boy. I wish your wife and bub all the strength they need to get through this tough time


 

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