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    Default The terrible two!

    Ds is 2 and a half and currently attends daycare 3x a week. Ive spotted him more than a few times recently that he wont allow his friends to share toys (esp of there are other kids who like to grab his toys) and even play together when someone comes over and takes a peek of what he is doing - he would even try to push that person away... The biggest problem is that he would attack the other kids by lightly smacking them or pushing them away. One second i saw him doing that i would take him away before the fighting became serious. My question is why? And how come a two yr old knows about smacking down someone? This is certainly not an acceptable behaviour for dh. We never teach him violence and ive talked to him about playing and sharing nicely. He might have seen other kids getting into a fight as well but he now seems to be doing that as well every now and then. To be honest Im tired and scared that i might not be able to control his behaviour.
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    My DS is almost the same age and acts like this sometimes aswell. My best friend has a 1.5yr old who my DS picks on a bit. During their play time together as soon as my DS pushes, snatches or is nasty to her son, I quickly correct him and let him know that that is definitely not okay behaviour. I make him apologize and he quickly picks up good behaviour. I believe that my DS picked up that behaviour from daycare and its horrible. But the best you can do is let him know that its not acceptable at all.

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    Sharing is not a natural behaviour. I don't believe in pushing it too hard on children. After all I don't share my favourite things with aquaintances, so should I expect my child to? All of the behaviour sounds normal to me. Try and teach gentle hands. When another child gets in his personal space its not like he can say "Excuse me would you mind, moving about a metre away I feel crowded by your proximity to me" . Giving a shove or push to go away is how they communicate. Don't be too hard on him and just continue modelling proper behaviour and he will be fine .

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    DS is shocking for this behaviour too. We tell him loads of stories throughout the day and lately have been making them about pushing and how that behaviour is not nice. Eg boy called Cedric pushed Robert over and Robert was upset and fireman Sam came and told everyone that good firefighters don't push other boys. Seems to be working and there was no pushing at playgroup today.

    Also instant time out for pushing.

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    My question is why?
    I'm with ThreeChooks on this. Pushing/not sharing is a communication method usually used as a stress response in children of this age. Steve Biddulph talks so eloquently about this in his writings about raising boys. Our little man can get claustrophobic and needs his space. Gentle modelling of desired behaviour has taught him that he can do that without shoving people.


 

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