I have a friend who had a son in February & I have just had my little boy 2 weeks ago...
Everytime I post something on Facebook about my son, my friend comments on it & makes it about her son!
When I gave birth, I got to the hospital at around 10-10:30 & had my son at 3:50 that day.... My partner put on my Facebook that I was in active labour for 6 hours... (Which it was actually probably less - because I was completely closed when I got to hospital & they wanted to send me home) ... And she put a status on Facebook saying 'reading all these labour times on Facebook and I was one of the silly ones who said my labour was 13 hours cause I went from the time I got to hospital. My labour was so short if you only say your active labour'
Which I think was a direct dig at me... Because why else would she still be talking about her labour 3 months later?? She then turned around & said her active labour was only 5 hours.. Lol. I don't know why she's trying to compete with labour times... It's not like any woman has control over how her body labours & every woman is different.. It's pointless to try and compare.
I can't handle her competitiveness... I don't know how to deal with it. It's like everything I say she has to be better... And I don't talk to her about anything cause I can't handle the competition.. But she goes out of her way to ask me questions about my son.. And so I just answer them to be polite. But even my friends have started sending me messages as they have noticed her commenting on everything of mine and making it about her son.
She annoys me because she lies too. I asked her what labour was like while I was pregnant and she said it 'wasn't painful, was just uncomfortable'.. Meanwhile her friend told me that she was screaming for drugs the moment she got there. Why would you be screaming for drugs if it was just uncomfortable?? She also had a pethedine shot, which I know midwives try to delay as it is a narcotic... She then asked me if I was planning on giving my son a dummy - which I am very strongly against .. But I know her son has one cause its always in the pictures she puts up, so I just said no, they aren't for me.. And I didn't get into how much I don't like them, so I didn't offend her.. She then proceeded to tell me her son doesn't need one ... She just gave him one cause 'she likes them'... I don't know why you would introduce a dummy if its not needed?? She gave up breast feeding on day 3... Yet said she had no issues breast feeding and that it was easy. Why would you give up breast feeding if it was easy ?? Our mutual friend then told me that she had lots of issues breast feeding. It's like she tries to make out like everything is perfect to rub it in my face... But it doesn't work cause none of her stories add up!
I had an entirely drug free labour.. Did not even have gas.. And she kept questioning me about it and saying she's never met anyone to have a drug free labour... It was like she thought I was lying.
I just can't handle it! I try to avoid talking to her because I don't like telling her things for her to try and out do me. This may seem so petty but grrrrr I just needed to vent.
Does anyone have any ideas on how to deal with it??
Please feel free to vent about similar situations!! I would love to know I'm not the only one.