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    DD is 21mo and has recently started hitting and throwing. She mostly hits DH and I when we're picking her up when she doesn't want us to or putting her in the car. Sometimes just to get a reaction. She also throws things when she's unhappy - like yesterday I she didn't want to have a nap despite being tired and grumpy so she kept throwing her dummy and water bottle at her bedroom door.

    With the hitting, we just stop her and say to her "no DD, hitting hurts mummy and it's not nice. Be gentle". But she seems to be pushing it more and more.

    Anything that she throws gets taken away for a period of time.

    Any other suggestions?

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    Subbing, my 26 mth old does it too, sometimes playing but sometimes he's mad about something

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    My 2.5 yr old does the exact thing!!! He tends to hit my husband alot and has actually injured him. He scratched his eye last night to the point where we had to go to the docs at 6pm and he ended up needing antibiotics!!! Sonetimes he hits out of excitement. He doesn't seem to hit me really. I have no idea what to do either

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    No advice here as my 14 month old dd does this! Dhe is very head strong so cant cope when she doesnt get her way. Dh tried to give her a cuddle but she didnt want one so her response was...

    yells NO!! And slaps dh hard on the face just cos she didn't want a cuddle. Its not like dh was forcing her, he just said 'can daddy have a cudfle'. She often has melt downs when something isnt cooperating with her. Throws things hits and screams. She is completely 100% normal too. Bright kid, no sensory issues or behavioural issues, juat going through the terrible twos a year early :/

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    My 22 month old hits and in our house hitting is an instant time out, no ifs, no excuses, straight to time out. She seems to only hit her sister who is 13 months older and she'll do it then go to time out and then it will be a week or 2 before it happens again. We have 5 kids and in our family any violent reaction (hitting, kicking, pushing etc is an automatic time out)

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    Quote Originally Posted by Meags82 View Post
    My 22 month old hits and in our house hitting is an instant time out, no ifs, no excuses, straight to time out. She seems to only hit her sister who is 13 months older and she'll do it then go to time out and then it will be a week or 2 before it happens again. We have 5 kids and in our family any violent reaction (hitting, kicking, pushing etc is an automatic time out)
    Just wondering how you work a time out with your 22 month old. My 20 month old doesn't get the concept yet. If he is naughty I'll either put him in the playpen or his cot and tell him why but it doesn't make any difference yet.

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    DS1 is nearly 2.5 and does the same things. He hits or throws toys when he is frustrated/ angry. We basically do what you do - hitting is a firm 'No, we don't hit, it hurts and we don't hurt people'. I then try to acknowlege what he's feeling - ie. 'I know you're frustrated, but use your words to tell mum what's wrong, don't hit'. He then gets put down if he was hitting when he was getting a cuddle. If he's really bad he gets put in his cot for a few minutes to calm down.

    When he throws a toy he usually gets a warning first, then if the toy is thrown again it get put away for a few minutes (unless it was thrown at someone, then it goes away straight away).

    Honestly, I don't know if any of what I'm doing is getting through, because he knows his toys get put up if he throws them, but despite a warning he will nearly always throw the toy again (often with a big grin on his face). I think it might be an impulse control thing, but hopefully consistency will pay off and he will start to realise the consequences of his actions.

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    Man this thread is reassuring! DS hits but only DH and I. I've been wondering about this too OP.

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    We put my son in a naughty corner. Guess what he does? Nothing! ! He actually sits there doing nothing. Doesn't get upset lol.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ProudMumma34 View Post
    We put my son in a naughty corner. Guess what he does? Nothing! ! He actually sits there doing nothing. Doesn't get upset lol.

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    ugh. We put dd in the playpen if she is really naughty, at first she would get rather distressed but now she does what your ds does. nothing. sits there happily for however long. When we take her out regardless of her being distressed she will do said naughty thing again. Sigh. Lol.


 

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