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    I too am harda$$. I think 5 is plenty old enough to get that you're a separate person to your twin. If he's not friends with the other kids going, why would he want to go anyway?

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    I kind of think that unless you are a twin yourself, or a parent to the twin, you sometimes may find it hard to actually understand the bond twins may have. My two rarely will be separated from each other (God knows we have tried), and even when we are successful, after half an hour away from each other they are asking for their twin again.

    With this in mind, I would invite both. I do believe 5 can still be too young to separate twins on matters such as this, and it can be hard trying to comprehend why 'YOUR' best friend (twin) has been invited to someones party but you haven't.

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    I'd invite both. Siblings are always welcome at my kids parties and we invite the whole class.

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    I'm the girl in a girl boy twin combo and I say just invite the girl. However if you had asked my twin at that age if he would have gone to a party without me he would have refused. I was happy go lucky to go to kinder and prep alone- he was clingy and used to follow me around.

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    A good friend at kindy has a boy and girl set of twins and there is absolutely no expectation both get invited to parties. And both kids are completely fine about it. They have different friends and their parents always make it positive one on one time for the other twin. Having said that DD2 invites them both as she's good friends with both.

    I agree it's a good idea to ask what other parents have done but wouldn't assume an invitation for him was expected or necessary.

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    Talk to the mum.

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    I'd invite whoever my child wants to invite, I wouldn't make the twin thing an issue. They're siblings who happen to have the same birthdate, they are their own little people and sounds like they have their own friends.

    If you're really worried you could run it by the mother, but I'm sure she wouldn't mind if just her daughter was invited.

    OP I know your DD has since changed her mind and wants to invite both, which is very nice of her

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    i think people are thinking too much about saving $20 and not about kids having fun.

    My DS is about to turn 9 and his party is on Sunday.

    I told him he could invite 7 kids...he came to me and explained there were 8 kids and the reason it was 8 is because there were 2 girls in particular he wanted to invite but they hung out in a pretty tight groups of 3 and he did not want to hurt the other girl by inviting the 2 others and excluding her. He offered to pay for her himself from birthday money he knew he would be getting from his nanna.

    That, people, is called compassion and we should be breeding that in our kids not telling a 5 year old to "suck it up and learn you don't get to go to everything". It is such a shame when a 9 year old has more compassion than a bunch of mothers.

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    River, this is what really irks me at the moment.

    Its not about the money or being compassionate. It's just life. It's no big deal, if the boy doesn't play with OP's daughter then why get an invite to her party?

    Sounds like your son's situation is a little different though.

    It's just another case where parents might interfere and make a big issue out of nothing.....I won't go on, I'll just sound like a raving loony (because I'll start ranting about mountains and molehills and I've already said my bit about that, don't wanna sound like a broken record)
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    I would only invite the girl. How is it any different to explaining to a sibling when one gets invited but not the other?

    It's an expensive party, numbers are limited and your dd is closer to one. No problem to me

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