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    Default How do I explain to 4.5 yo?

    Il be leaving my partner (just waiting to get accepted for a rental first) iv found out he's lying to me and has tried to put a wedge between my sister and I. My problem is I'm not sure how I will explain it to my 4.5 to daughter. I left my partner over a year ago and we got back together and about 2 months ago we moved back in with him, now iv found out he's been lying and I'm realizing it's not just about the big stuff but little stuff as well and I need to get out! What does everyone suggest I say to explain it to my daughter?

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    Sorry you are in this situation, i have seen some kids books at the library about families breaking up (sorry dont know thr titles). best to be honest an use words she will understand. Give her heaps of reassurance thats its not her fault and you both still love her.

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    When my xdh and I separated I just told the kids that we both still love them but we weren't happy and didn't get on well so have decided to live in separate houses.

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    Thanks for the tips! It's gonna be hard talking to her!

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    I told DD that even though we live in different houses, we both still love her very much. That mum and dad would be happier living in different houses

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    Same as above ^^

    Good luck, it's never an easy thing to do

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    Same as PP have already suggested.

    Is the partner her father? Or step-dad? That could change your conversation slightly.

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    I remember your PP about if you'd changed. Glad you got things sorted with your sister!

    I agree we the other suggestions too. It won't be easy and it'll be an adjustment for her to start with but you'll be there (hopefully both of you) to get her through it.

    All the best!

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    He's not her biological father but she doesn't know any different. She hasn't seen her real dad for 3.5 years (his choice). He doesn't know as yet I'm leaving although he would hVe to hVe a feeling. I'm going to look through a house This afternoon.

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    Good luck x


 

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