I have just read a thread in another area and I want to make a comment but am putting it here so as not to upset anyone.
I'm am concerned that people are under the missguided opinion that people control cry as some kind of 'power trip'.
Most of us agonise to do it and then it's probably one of the hardest things to do. But it also works for us, if it doesn't work for anyone else thats ok too.
I think this world needs to drop all the PC labels and just get on with the job of being a loving parent, no matter what your style, don't be so quick to judge others till you walk a mile in their shoes.