My ex mil is quite the opposite, even though she lives interstate, she makes the effort to come over to SA every year and visit me n ds, she loves spending a week with us and she spoils ds rotten. She was over here last month in the school holidays and she n ds shared a room, (he has bunk beds) and she enjoyed sharing with ds.
My ex fil hasn't made an effort with ds at all and it's his loss. Ex fil never liked me at all we never got along. He even scowled in our wedding pictures, as he disliked me so much.
"Oh, well I never, was there ever a cat so clever as magical Mr. Mistoffelees"