Hi ladies, just wanted to chat. After 4 m/c and 12 months of ttc I finally got a bfp last week at about 8 or 9 dpo. I kept testing every day and line was getting darker. I had nausea and very sore boobs too. I didnt test over the weekend but did my last test yesterday morning and the line was faint. The pharmacist gave me lots of reasons why which gave me hope but then last night i started spotting. Today its brown discharge, not alot less than AF, and red watery blood when I wipe. I have bad lower back pain too. Dr has done a hcg test and I'm waiting for resulta but I'm not hopeful.
I have 2 blood clotting disorders and a cavernoma so cant be on clexane but they started me on aspirin today. I also turn 40 next week so this was pretty much last chance. My bestie is saying it could be fine but I know in my heart its not. It would of been mine and DF's first child. I have a DD who is 6 and 2 older boys (22 & 20) but I know how much DF wanted a baby. I really dont think I can go through this again and that breaks my heart. I also kind of feel that because I am only 4 wk 2 days I shouldnt really be upset. All other m/c have been missed and the last one was 7wk 5 days.
Sorry for long post.
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Hugs mumofprincess. Hopefully this turns out to be a normal early pregnancy symptom for you. But if it doesn't.....feel what you need to feel. My two mcs were between 4 and 5 weeks and even though it was till incredibly early in terms of development, I still grieved for the loss of what could have been.
So sorry to read that - be kind to yourself and to your DF
Firstly.. So sorry to meet you in this way.. The Lois is not easy for any one.. No matter how far along you were..
I am 40 and DH 41, had a MMC in late october.. and we were first timers.. The loss hit us hard ( cause we'd been TTC for around 10 yrs, and had all but given up! So this shows it's never too late.. We are still deciding wether to try again.. One step at a time..
I know that you have lost this time, but early bleeding is not uncommon in preg.. My birthmother had normal cycles until 6 months and literally didn't believe she was preg until her boobs had got really sore, and her back started to ache.. She was early 20s and just thought that she was having a growth sport.. Silly I know, but that was 41 years ago and not as much testing could be done..
Point being.. Bleeding early is not necessarily doomsday!
Also : never say never..
There is a forum that I was part of while preg that was for women preg at 40+ the ladies in there are also supportive if you do TTC again..
Rest up, and don't be hard on yourself.. We are all here for you.
Well let's add another to this thread! 8 wks along, no heartbeat at our second scan, total and utter shock! I had the d&c that day (Monday) and am literally just recovering from the shock now. Emski your name is familiar from the due date thread. There was another that I know of who is now also in this lonely, slow moving boat with us too.
What a traumatic experience, but like you, I'm also a bit of a 'get back on the horse' girl so fingers crossed all goes well we will try again in the new year.
Some things were meant to test us. X
Hi ladies, I haven't posted on BH before but have followed the great advice and experiences on here. I will introduce myself in the intros soon.
I did want to put a little note in this section to say I am thinking of all you ladies going through this heartbreaking time. It doesn't matter how far along in your pregnancy you were, if it was planned or unplanned or if it was only your first try, it doesn't make it any easier.
I am 28 years old and am now 31 weeks pregnant with our first child. My husband and I have had three miscarriages over the past four years.
I know there isn't a lot people can say to help with the pain and heartache but after my 3rd miscarriage my sister gave me a lovely thought. She told me that maybe our baby's souls/minds/personalities, and all the traits that make them who they are, are already pre-picked/pre-stored, but we miscarry because that particular little body wasn't ready or wasn't right. So instead of me losing what would have been 3 babies, it was always going to be the one I am pregnant with now that would be born, it's just got the right body to be born into.
I know this will not dull the pain, but it certainly helped me through. I hope you may find some comfort in it too.
Bayside, I'm so sorry to see you in here (and I mean that in the nicest possible way) - I'm so sorry that you had that experience at your scan, it must have been awful for you and your partner.
I'd never had a miscarriage before so didn't know how I would feel - but I think I have coped pretty well. I think multiple IVF's prepare you for disappointment in a way and you are always a little detached as you know so much, but to think things are going along well and then to have that shock scan - I really feel for you.
In my pregnancy there was literally one week where I thought it was a viable pregnancy so I think I was grieving for the other 7.5 weeks.
Be kind to yourself in the coming days -if your work has offered you time off, take it. My work gave me a week with no questions asked, and at first I wasn't going to take it as I felt 'fine' - but when the hormones drop etc. I was a bit of a mess and actually felt pretty ordinary about 4 days after the D&C.
I am pretty much back to my old self now 10 days after my D&C, still spotting a bit. But I am feeling ok within myself. We have moved on to the donor route now which has put a bit of a spring in my step as well.
The one thing I wish is that I could remove myself from the Due in thread as it's always at the top of my 'participated threads' but it's not possible (I've asked the mods)...it might be because I started that thread , should I be so lucky to be in that position again I'll remember not to start a due in thread.
Drafter thank you for your kind words and I like your theory I like it a lot.
Anyway - keep strong ladies and big hugs to you all.
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