This is the first time I've ever been to this part of the forum, I'm usually scavenging around other forums for parenting tips as I have a very roly poly little boy, 2 years old.
Anyway I had a miscarriage LAST YEAR in July and as much as I thought I was finally "over it" and able to move on, today received news that a friend of mine miscarried her first pregnancy at 5 months. Just so devastated for her and all the emotions that I thought I had processed, internalized and dealt with just came flooding back I've just been in a weird mood all night and now seem to have a headache as well.
It's nice to know there's a group here that would understand... It just seems like even after so long, I feel like I "should" be over it, but then something like this happens and I find myself back at square one.
Just big hugs all round. I still think about mine, just more a bit sad I'm not pregnant again already..... I just hate not knowing if I will ever actually get a baby... Ido t know the answers, but I'm glad to be able to come here and vent
Urgh. Just found out my mother has told my brother I miscarried. I hadn't told him I was pregnant. I had only told my own parents and I asked them not to tell anyone. But she tells me today she told my brother and a story about someone he knows who miscarried and how much worse it was for her than me so I should be thankful it happened early.
I understand she thinks she is being comforting. And until now she has been comforting to talk to. But I feel very down to know she's been talking to other people about it. Am I over reacting? Maybe I am.... I wasn't keen to tell anyone else....
@Rueblade I don't think you're over reacting at all!! First, not cool to be telling other people your private personal business, especially emotional business like miscarrying!! Second, that bs about it being harder for others who had it later really aggravates me, no one has the right to insinuate you should be grateful you had a miscarriage earlier than someone else, what the hell!! And your mother saying that? I understand she was probably trying to help too, and if it was me (which it was, my mum did just the same and I kind of feel the same about it) but I would never, ever expect someone else to feel the same about it than me!! And I would never tell them that they should!
It is a terrible thing to have to live through and people comparing experiences is just not on. I am so sorry for your loss and you feeling upset at your mothers actions but personally that's my opinion 😊
Just big hugs... Not that it makes it any better... But my mum did the same thing ... I told my sisters bout the mc cause one of the had had one herself.... But more really wasn't something I was going to discuss with my brother.... He's never mentioned it either... But def wasn't her place. Made me wonder who else she told though
Lots of hugs to all
I hope we all are blessed with our Rainbow bubbas soon
I have another (hopefully small) bump in the road - hospital called with the histology results and there weren't and products of conception found. Which means either: a) I had already passed it before the d&c, or b) the pregnancy isn't in my uterus.
Anywho, I'm getting forms for bloods sent to me and will get those done to make sure my B-hCG has dropped/is dropping and then we go from there.
I am freaking exhausted, I thought this was over
Oh that sucks Hun. Had they done an ultrasound prior to d&c?
Yeah, I've had 3 scans - I was only very early (4-6 weeks) and the highest hCG level I got was 130. I was told that hCG needs to be around 1000 before they generally see anything.
Hi all, madly trying to catch up I'm so sorry to hear of the recent losses for you girls...I bit the bullet and seen my ob to get tested due to consecutive losses and so far blood tests and ultrasound show everything is good which means the two losses may have just been bad luck....twice....don't know if that makes me feel better or worse :/.
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