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    HCG and Progesterone have both dropped today so still just waiting for it all to begin. No blood, no real pain.
    @Minib - I've thought about maybe seeing a counsellor but I just can't imagine what I'll say? How did you find it ? Was it awkward ?? How did you start off at your first session? I really hate and avoid "awkward" at all costs usually Do you mind me asking....do they ask you questions and you just answer them or are you just talking the whole time while they listen? I'm a reeeeally bad cryer where I just totally choke up and literally can not even get one full word out of my mouth! And then if I really get worked up.....I'll start dry retching and eventually vomit. Yep, I've become pretty good at not crying over the years as it's such a drama when I do and just way too embarrassing! Would you recommend seeing one though? Did it make things a little easier do you think?

    I'm doing IVF also and just don't know if I have enough strength left for all of the ups and downs that are sure to come with it
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    Just big massive hugs to you. I've never seen a counsellor so have no advice can imagine though with going through ivf that it might help to talk to someone. Just again big hugs.


    I'm just feeling so very blue really.
    .... Not really crying more just feeling glum. Seriously why didn't this just start with bleeding ? Or u know just not getting pregnant at all.... I was far less depressed when AF just arrived every bloody month
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    Quote Originally Posted by Minib View Post
    Auntyg, I don't have history of depression but it would have been the closest I have been to it after my mmc. I felt fine after d&c or so I thought. But about 2 weeks after, I fell apart. I was down. Didn't want to wake up. Didn't want to work. Or see people. Or do anything. I didn't see why I have to move on. Then I got really angry. Between anger and feeling down, I rang a counsellor. Then slowly I got better.
    It's really bizarre to come out of the op feeling fine then have a huge delay before the breakdown. I had the exact same thing and I think everyone just thought I was ok. Then when I lost myself my hubby wasn't totally surprised because they hadn't seen me break down yet.

    Ladyee, I do recommend seeing a counsellor or someone who can help walk you through the process - only because sometimes these emotions can hit you like a tonne of bricks (when you least expect it) and it is good to have some tools behind you.

    I usually keep myself super busy (I run a business) and usually can't afford to 'breakdown' when I probably need to. So as soon as I get to the dr. for a chat I feel comfortable to completely let the walls go and cry it out. She passes the tissues and just listens and validates my emotions. If she can't help with particular issues she will then help me find someone who can.

    Sometimes we need to talk and sometimes we need to listen. So getting counseling is never a bad thing. Never be afraid of crying uncontrollably or anything like that. They are well stocked with tissues :-)

    Love and wishes to you all today.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ladydee View Post
    HCG and Progesterone have both dropped today so still just waiting for it all to begin. No blood, no real pain.
    @<a href="http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/member.php?u=116255" target="_blank">Minib</a> - I've thought about maybe seeing a counsellor but I just can't imagine what I'll say? How did you find it ? Was it awkward ?? How did you start off at your first session? I really hate and avoid &quot;awkward&quot; at all costs usually <img src="images/smilies/wink.gif" border="0" alt="" title="Wink" smilieid="92" class="inlineimg" Do you mind me asking....do they ask you questions and you just answer them or are you just talking the whole time while they listen? I'm a reeeeally bad cryer where I just totally choke up and literally can not even get one full word out of my mouth! And then if I really get worked up.....I'll start dry retching and eventually vomit. Yep, I've become pretty good at not crying over the years as it's such a drama when I do and just way too embarrassing! Would you recommend seeing one though? Did it make things a little easier do you think?

    I'm doing IVF also and just don't know if I have enough strength left for all of the ups and downs that are sure to come with it <img src="images/smilies/frown.gif" border="0" alt="" title="Frown" smilieid="11" class="inlineimg"
    Ladydee, I was a bit sceptical about seeing a counsellor too. Wasn't sure how they can help. But she did help. A lot. She asked me for my story. I told her. She then asked how I feel. And reassure it was ok to feel angry, sad, etc. But she also gave some really good tips on how to deal with it. She said to acknowledge how I feel but also recognise what gets me more positive. Remember that feeling so I know how to pull myself up again. She actually talk a little bit explaining some of the feelings. Also explain how men can feel and act differently. Why don't you give it a go? I only had that one session and I then try to cope with it myself. I tried to get busy with other things so my life goes on. As hard as it is, life does go on and suddenly it's a few months and the pain is more bearable. This sounds cliché but this gets me hoping again. Life only throws at you what you can deal with, even if it doesn't feel that way at the time. So I continue hoping but seriously never want to experience again as I'm not sure if I can. I hope I answer some of your questions

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    Hi Ladies, Mind if i join you...

    I would be about 6-7 weeks, took a test today and noticed the line was looking a lot lighter than when i got my BFP.. kinda crampy and knew something wasnt right.

    Bleeding started today, feeling very sore and sorry for myself

    This is my 2nd MC, one with my first pregnancy, then my son was stillborn, then we had my second son who is two, and have now been ttc 13 months, so was really hoping this one would stick around..

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    Hi ladies, been a while since I've been in here.
    To the new faces - massive hugs and so sorry for your losses xx

    I've been quiet, in a pretty sh1t place tbh. Just hit 12 months TTC and our angel's due date is 2 weeks away. I'm miserable and it's really not fair as it's our twin son's birthdays next week and I'm struggling to keep myself together for them :\
    Sorry for the downer post, just really needed to get that out.

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    So so sorry to read about your loss Codex How are you going? Is most of the physical side of things passing now? I hope you have lots of support so the emotional healing can begin. Have you looked into further testing? Vent away if you need to xoxoxo

    TwinnieMumma- sorry to read you're having a hard time. I'm yet to start reaching my due dates yet but I know they are going to be difficult I hope you find a nice special way to remember your angel bub (maybe some jewellery with what should've been the birthstone?? Like a necklace you can have next to your heart?) and that you manage to keep yourself flat out with your boys birthdays. xx

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    @lilyloubelle & @codex , I hope you ladies are hanging in there xx

    AFM- I had what was supposed to be my dating scan today (I'm 7+4 weeks today) and it's also the first time I've seen my Fertility Specialist since getting pregnant this time as I've been getting all of my bloods with the fertility nurses. Even though my hCG and Progesterone showed that they had both dropped with Tuesdays bloods, he decided to go ahead with the scan (he just does it in his rooms) to rule out an ectopic and there was still a heartbeat but it was very slow and erratic so our poor lil bub is still slowly passing away. It is several days smaller than what it should be at this stage too So I guess my actual m/c is still a little while away. My FS will scan me again if nothing has happened by Wednesday-week and then it might be time to start looking towards a D&C. I asked if I could try naturally and he was happy enough for me to wait some more , specially as there was still a little bit of a heartbeat This sucks, I SO wish this could've been our healthy take home bub Onto IVF it is....we're going to try a low dose of steroids and blood thinners with the next ( hopeful !) pregnancy to see if that might prevent a 4th loss in a row.

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    Big massive cuddles TwinnieMumma It is so very hard sometimes to keep it together especially as your due date is so fast approaching.

    As for me … nothing is going on here…. doc said could take 3-4 weeks for things to get started on moving out…. I hate being in limbo…. I asked if we could at least do some running HCG levels to see if my levels are at least dropping… cause basically nothing is going on and I still kinda feel pregnant…. oh well …. just big hugs to us all

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    I don't know why I just did this to mysèlf..... Sis in law has an online photo album oh her daughter who was born dec.... I just looked back over all her photos and she had put one up way back when she had a nine week scan... Same timing I had mine ...... Seriously.... Why did I luck out? Why me? I'm sure everyone else here has similiar thoughts.... I know we put it down to there must have been something wrong... But f this it just isn't fair
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