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    Default Just plain annoyed. just a whinge

    Today I breastfeeding while I was visiting my mum in hospital. She is in a four bed room. Her and three men, one of which is a prisoner who is being guarded by 2 officers. Anyhow I been feeding up there all week with no issues. Today the guard comes and close our curtain because i was feeding.
    It left me feeling mad and dirty. I was not doing anything wrong or anything that need to covered up by. If he had a problem with the prisoner seeing me feed than close the prisoner curtain.

    Vent over.

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    I'd be annoyed to. What right does he have to decide if you should close the curtain or not?

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    Sorry that he made you feel dirty

    There was nothing wrong with what you were doing!

    I hope your Mum is feeling better soon

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    He should of asked you first or discussed why... I am wondering if it was more to ensure your privacy from the gentleman?

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    Maybe it was to ensure the prisoner wasn't doing the wrong thing. But still, even if that was the case they should have shut their own curtain not your mums!

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    Yeah, it is pretty uncomfortable for you but I did wonder if it was related to the prisoner - perhaps in the guards mind seeing someone breastfeeding = breast out = breasts = sex = sexual thoughts for someone who is incarcerated and may be creating a sexually charged environment which may prove problematic, particularly with (I presume mostly) female nursing staff. I know it is a pretty low bow to draw, and certainly doesn't make it right that you were left feeling that way but just a different perspective.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SpecialPatrolGroup View Post
    Yeah, it is pretty uncomfortable for you but I did wonder if it was related to the prisoner - perhaps in the guards mind seeing someone breastfeeding = breast out = breasts = sex = sexual thoughts for someone who is incarcerated and may be creating a sexually charged environment which may prove problematic, particularly with (I presume mostly) female nursing staff. I know it is a pretty low bow to draw, and certainly doesn't make it right that you were left feeling that way but just a different perspective.
    While I agree with all of that but he should have closed the prisioner curtain not ours.

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    Quote Originally Posted by anewme View Post
    While I agree with all of that but he should have closed the prisioner curtain not ours.
    Yes, that bit is a rather accusatory.

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    Gosh your poor Mum in hospital with someone under guard. If it were me I wouldn't have thought anything other than they were trying to protect my privacy, maybe he closed your curtain as he saw you were busy - honestly if I were him I probably would have done the same.
    I think breast feeding Mums are getting a bit sensitive to be honest (I'm breast feeding so this isn't a stab, just an observation).

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    Yes it is. I felt that I was accused of doing the wrong thing. I know that is not what you meant but it is how I felt.

    When in fact I was doing the right thing and if the guard felt that way he should have dealt with the prisoner who was in fact not a problem he was asleep and he seen me feed more than five time over the last few days and it hasn't caused any issues.


 

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