I'm so sorry to hear you are feeling that way. I say this in the hope it will be something good for you to hear, so I hope I don't offend. When my Dd was born 15 months ago, from day dot I was stressed out all day, all night for months on end as I was way in over my head. I felt guilty that all I wanted to do was go back to a time when it was just me and DH. There were so many things from my life before being pregnant I missed and craved and I wished I had it all back. If I had my time over, I would have waited to have her.
i guess what I'm saying is, try as hard as you can to focus on yourself and looking after yourself and your relationship with your DH. Think of all the things you won't be able to do with a baby and do that, at much as you can.
please don't see it as your body not working, it will do what it needs to do when it's ready to. And when it happens you can enjoy every moment of your pregnancy but for now ignore the complainers (as much as you can). Good luck with it all.
Hey starflame I know how your feeling. But please don't despair. When I said treatment I meant things like clomid or injections which aren't expensive. Also doesn't the women's hospital where you live have a reproductive medicine clinic? You can see an actual obs there through the public system. Why is it taking more than a few months for an appointment? You need to take vitex more than 1 month to see if it works. One month isn't enough to give up after. Also it does help to try to focus on something else too whilst ttc. Like a hobby or traveling. I know it's hard and it can feel like it isn't going to happen but if it's something u want you need to find ways to help yourself cope. The 'not caring approach' helped me because my pcos is quite severe....got more than 40 cysts on my ovaries!!! It's hard though and that doesn't work for everyone.
Yes, I pay $30 for a clomid script and for the min 50mg dose which they start you on, it lasts 2 months. I also agree you need more than one month of vitex. I can notice it working within 48 hours of taking it, but many naturos say min of 3 months.
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I was told that I wouldn't be able to conceive without help!!! Whilst my very skinny and otherwise fertile doctor was having trouble getting pregnant!
So I'm feeling pretty overwhelmed by all the different vitamins everyone is taking.
I have regular periods so I don't think I'll need Vitex and I'm taking Blackmores conceive well and about to switch to Elevit.
My DP and I will be trying to conceive through IUI later in the year so I'm trying to lose weight and prepare my body for best results. I'm going to be starting acupuncture as well.
However it's the vitamins that confuse me most! Different stories from everyone and the lady in my local health food store is a tad vague.
My questions is what else should I be taking? Does anyone have any recommendations?
Ok well thank you.
You might what to get your vit D levels checked...i got them checked after getting my bfp and it turns out my levels are very low. Its worth getting checked beforehand because then you can build up enough before you get pregnant if you need to. I also take iron supplements due to iron deficiency. Though my levels are perfect now but i'm still taking them as they are likely to drop during pregnancy. I think it was the extra iron in Elevit that made me feel nauseous tbh.
When ttc really the only thing you absolutely should take is folate (min 400mg/day I believe)...everything else is optional.
Hope that helps.
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We can't afford to see a private gyno so that's why the wait is so long through the public system. I can't go on clomid until I see a gyno because my to cant prescribe it.
There is really nothing I do in my life right now that I won't be able to do with a baby. I don't have the most exciting life. I'm just so over everything. I'm 24 years old, it shouldn't take so long for me to fall pregnant! I think back to when I was 22 and we first started ttc and how excited I was thinking I'd have a baby within a year. I feel cheated that I will never be that "innocent" again.
I wish I had no idea about temping and opks and clomid and any of that stuff. The innocence of just missing a period and getting a bfp was stolen from me and I'm sad and angry about it. My Nanna never got to meet a child of mine and the way things are going, neither will my pop. I'm just feeling very down about it all
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