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    Default Willing to share your IVF experiences?

    Hi my name is Alison and briefly I have attempted 2 IVF cycles. The first cycle resulted in 3 embryos, we had one transferred immediately and then a few months later the 2 frozen embryos were transferred. Second cycle only 2 embryos, both transferred, unsuccessful. I have severe Endometriosis, had a bowel resection 2 years ago and will be going in for more surgery in July. Then maybe IVF again, but am thinking of trying another clinic, living in regional NSW makes it tricky.

    My reason for posting is I am writing a feature article for university studies and I am looking at IVF. I feel you only ever hear success stories in the media and all around. I am looking for people who have been through IVF willing to share some of their experiences. I will post questions below and if you are happy to answer some or all of them that would be brilliant.

    How many IVF cycles have you attempted?
    How much has IVF cost you financially (roughly)?
    What were the reasons for trying IVF?
    Has IVF affected your relationship with your partner, and if so how?
    Have you been offered counselling at your clinic?
    Has your clinic advised on lifestyle, diet and alternative therapies such as acupuncture etc and how they may impact your success with IVF?
    Do you have a cut-off point or maximum number of IVF cycles you are willing to try?
    Has your IVF specialist discussed with you how many cycles you should attempt?
    Have you thought about life after IVF and what you will do if unsuccessful?
    In your own words, and as many words as you like, describe how you feel IVF has changed who you are and/or impacted on your life.

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    Hi Samantha, thanks so much for replying. I would definitely be interested to read your blog. I really need to try and interview people for this assignment. Would you be willing to be interviewed? There does not need to be any mention of your name in the article, it can be anonymous and I am happy to send you questions via this forum or email if that suits. I do need to have it done over the next few days though.
    Please email me at alifoale@live.com if you are happy to assist. Also would be grateful for a link to your blog.

    Thanks again and good luck to you.
    Alison

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    Good luck with your uni studies!
    Hope our answers will help

    How many IVF cycles have you attempted?
    4 stim cycles and 3 frozen embryo transfers
    How much has IVF cost you financially (roughly)?
    Less than most. I'd say around $12k. After our first two cycles were cancelled due to inattention by our Dr, we lodged a complaint and were refunded all our money from the first two cycles, plus were given one free.
    What were the reasons for trying IVF?
    Husband has a zero sperm count
    Has IVF affected your relationship with your partner, and if so how?
    The decision to use donor sperm was very difficult for us. Hubby was dead against it and I was angry about that. Eventually he changed his mind (on his own, I would never force him) and we have been on the same page for all other decisions.
    Have you been offered counselling at your clinic?
    Yes, in face it was compulsory when using donor sperm.
    Has your clinic advised on lifestyle, diet and alternative therapies such as acupuncture etc and how they may impact your success with IVF?
    Not at all.
    Do you have a cut-off point or maximum number of IVF cycles you are willing to try?
    Yes, now that we have two children and 7 frozen embryos, we wouldn't do another stim cycle. If all 7 embryos are used but none turns into a baby, we wouldn't stim again.
    Has your IVF specialist discussed with you how many cycles you should attempt?
    No.
    Have you thought about life after IVF and what you will do if unsuccessful?
    We have already had some success. Before our boys were born we considered adoption but it was way too expensive and invasive, with a huge long wait and no guarantee of becoming parents. Worse than IVF.
    In your own words, and as many words as you like, describe how you feel IVF has changed who you are and/or impacted on your life.
    We had twins from our first successful IVF treatment after 3 years of failure. We appreciate them SO MUCH and have never felt stressed or overwhelmed by having two babies (honestly). It has made us so happy for every second that we have a family and we never take it for granted. My husband is the most hands-on, involved dad that there is. I don't think I could ever say I'm "glad" we had IVF, but I can say that it was definitely worth the pain. The struggle to become parents has made our experience of parenthood so much richer than we could have imagined. I still feel annoyed when people complain about their children, get pregnant by accident, or neglect their children. I think the IVF journey would be soooo much easier if it were completely free. It still gets under my skin that we have to pay thousands for something most people get for free. As if they can all go out and get drunk one night, and find a sports car parked in their driveway the next morning. But we have to work and scrimp and save and go without holidays and sell off some of our stuff just to raise the money to buy ours. I think THAT is really unfair. Otherwise, I'm just glad IVF exists at all because the only other option for us is no children at all. It has definitely matured hubby and I and made us more aware that we are a team.

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    How many IVF cycles have you attempted?
    5 cycles (2 fresh, 3 frozen)

    How much has IVF cost you financially (roughly)?
    Around $30,000 - $16,000 out of pocket

    What were the reasons for trying IVF?
    Unexplained infertility

    Has IVF affected your relationship with your partner, and if so how?
    Yes, in the beginning it was very stressful as we learnt to deal with each other's different coping mechanisms. Men and women normally deal with these things very differently. But it has also brought us closer, in that our communication and support for each other has grown.

    Have you been offered counselling at your clinic?
    Yes

    Has your clinic advised on lifestyle, diet and alternative therapies such as acupuncture etc and how they may impact your success with IVF?
    Not really. I felt that I had to do a lot of research on my own. It wasn't until our 4th failure that my FS suggested that acupuncture may help us with implantation (all three of our a-grade blastocyst transfers were failures).

    Do you have a cut-off point or maximum number of IVF cycles you are willing to try?
    I don't think you can set out with an arbitrary figure in mind. You need to just take it one cycle at a time, and reassess where you're at continually. Obviously financial considerations are very important, but for us we decided that if we reached a point where either one of us felt that IVF was threatening our long-term happiness, we would quit.

    Has your IVF specialist discussed with you how many cycles you should attempt?
    No. Our FS has always been very positive about our prospects, and expressed his surprise that it has taken us so long to have success. Our most recent fresh cycle (March) was successful and I am now 11 weeks pregnant.

    Have you thought about life after IVF and what you will do if unsuccessful?
    Very much so. In fact, if I was not pregnant by the end of this year, I was planning on quitting my job and going back to uni full time - to study physiotherapy, which is what I've always wanted to do. Before I made this resolution I actually felt very trapped and panicked that if IVF didn't work, what would my life be like? The last 12 months have been a real exercise in self-discovery, with the thought of a childless life in my mind.

    In your own words, and as many words as you like, describe how you feel IVF has changed who you are and/or impacted on your life.
    In many, many ways. I wouldn't wish infertility on anyone, it's absolutely horrible. But it has also given me some unexpected gifts (which I can say now that I'm pregnant, but probably didn't realise quite so much while I was in the midst of it all..) It has brought my husband and I much closer together - we are so strong now, there's nothing we can't do together. I also think it's made me a softer, more understanding and empathetic person. Most of all, when my baby arrives I know I will have a deep sense of gratitude that other women who don't struggle with infertility will never truly understand. I guess IVF has made me grateful for the good things in my life, and I think it's really important to never forget those things. When you can't appreciate the good things in your life anymore, that's probably the time to consider giving up on IVF. Don't let it ruin the good things you already have.

    Good luck with your studies and IVF, and thanks for the opportunity to tell my story

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    Thank you so much safam and mrsQ! I really appreciate your willingness to share these experiences, they will definitely help with my article.

    Plus on a personal level it's great to hear you have had some success after such a long and difficult slog!!! Some things are worth not giving up on.

    Good luck to you both

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    1. We tried 4 IVF cycles.
    2.I guess $4000 but never kept track as that was depressing. We got more back then expected.
    3. had not fallen pregnant after trying for pregnant for 2 yrs plus. Was healthy and non been on the pill.
    4. Made me realise how much he wanted a child but how much I did not want to go through IVF.
    5. Yes council king was provided. I called them up once but had to just chat to a nurse which was good.
    6. Did not really advise to alter lifestyle tilli requested a female Dr. Who gave us details of a acupuncturist. I used him and his wife who does Chinese herbs. I belief that with their help and advice that is why we fell pregnant with in 3 months of acupuncture and NO IVF.
    7. Just found out 1 hr ago that we are pregnant again with no IVF or acupuncture. Yippee.
    advice. Do acupuncture, alter your life a little, for me it was doing less sport and slowing down.

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    How many IVF cycles have you attempted?
    1 cycle cancelled before EPU, 1 full stim cycle, 2 frozen transfer cycles.

    How much has IVF cost you financially (roughly)?
    Around 20k out of pocket

    What were the reasons for trying IVF?
    MFI (very low sperm count).

    Has IVF affected your relationship with your partner, and if so how?
    It did affect our relationship. It's an incredibly stressful thing to go through so has an impact on your relationship. It's a huge emotional, physical, financial toll so did lead to a lot of stress and tension for us, but it has made our relationship stronger in the end.

    Have you been offered counselling at your clinic?
    Yes it was.

    Has your clinic advised on lifestyle, diet and alternative therapies such as acupuncture etc and how they may impact your success with IVF?
    My FS said the only real thing she could recommend was acupuncture which I had been doing a lot before we started IVF and found very helpful and calming. I did IVF before and after every transfer.

    Do you have a cut-off point or maximum number of IVF cycles you are willing to try?
    Thats hard to say because we only did 1 stim cycle and still have 3 frozen embryo's (and somehow managed a natural pregnancy between cycles) but there is a point where emotionally and financially I guess you have to draw the line. We didn't get to that and since i was 30 when i started i hoped i had some time.

    Has your IVF specialist discussed with you how many cycles you should attempt?
    She said we should plan for 3 full stim cycles and all associated transfers and then go to plan B after that.

    Have you thought about life after IVF and what you will do if unsuccessful?
    Yes, but we weren't really looking at options yet as we hadn't done 3 full stim cycles, we weren't ready to give up. We planned to just keep going with IVF as long as we could. We would love to adopt but as it seem's almost impossible we though we'd never find a child to adopt.

    In your own words, and as many words as you like, describe how you feel IVF has changed who you are and/or impacted on your life.

    Infertility is an incredibly hard, exhausting journey and the only people who truly understand how hard it is are those that have been through it. I really wasn't prepared for how all encompassing it all would be and even though I will attempt it again for a 2nd child, it's a period in my life i'd rather forget. It's the hardest thing i've ever had to do mentally and physically. Maybe because all three cycle's we did were positive but then ended in chemical pregnancies/early miscarraige, so the pain of being so close yet so far was just immense. We feel so lucky and blessed this journey lead to our precious little baby boy and would do it all again, but the whole infertility/IVF journey leaves scars that will last a long time I suspect. I have friends who are still on this journey and i wish for absolutely nothing more than for them to get off the rollercoaster with a healthy baby.

    IVF and infertility definitely made me realise what was important in life.
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    How many IVF cycles have you attempted?
    1 full stim cycle, 2 FETs

    How much has IVF cost you financially (roughly)?
    About $20k

    What were the reasons for trying IVF?
    Partner had a vasectomy

    Has IVF affected your relationship with your partner, and if so how?
    At the time it was really hard. Whenever we argued, he'd bring it in as a threat "I'll withdraw my consent" - did my head in! The counselling provided by the clinic was fantastic though and saw us through the roller coaster periods. In the end, we have a deeper understanding of one another and although we still argue now and then, it's much less heated. It made us grow up. We got to know each other better than we did - which prior to IVF we didn't think was possible as we thought we knew each other so well . . .



    Have you been offered counselling at your clinic?
    Yep, and we took the opportunity. See above.

    Has your clinic advised on lifestyle, diet and alternative therapies such as acupuncture etc and how they may impact your success with IVF?
    They said there were complimentary therapies available and said a lot of ladies swore by acupuncture and also gave me a place to try if I wanted, but I never tried.

    Do you have a cut-off point or maximum number of IVF cycles you are willing to try?
    I had a bit of trouble with the first stim cycle (just got through it, but it was a freeze all due to OHSS) and was told the risk would increase with each repeat episode. My partner didn't want to risk it, so he said 1 cycle would be it. I had baseline hormone levels and over-responded massively. I'm not sure they'd have wanted me to do a 2nd cycle.

    Has your IVF specialist discussed with you how many cycles you should attempt?
    We didn't get that far as we were successful with a FET from the first cycle.

    Have you thought about life after IVF and what you will do if unsuccessful?
    I tried not to think about it. I wanted to keep trying when things didn't work.

    In your own words, and as many words as you like, describe how you feel IVF has changed who you are and/or impacted on your life.

    IVF resulted in my small person and I am thrilled to bits. It made me a mum <insert all the things that means here>. It changed my relationship for the better and also changed my moral viewpoints on IVF. My family do not support IVF for the most part, but I think some of that comes from not fully understanding the differences in method that can be employed. You can choose not to become a battery hen if you don't want to. You don't have to discard unused embryos or gametes immediately. You can hold them, you can choose to donate them. There are options.

    I feel immensely sad when I hear someone is going through IVF for the umpdeenth time as going through it I met so many people all with different reasons for having to do it. I came across people who didn't care what they got (just to have one!), people who knew they carried severe genetic illnesses and didn't want them to manifest in their baby, people who wanted a "designer baby", people who were married, partnered, single... didn't matter who they were, or where they were from, fertillity/reproductive issues affected so many. I never realised the extent as so many people don't talk about it openly. It's a very private struggle and the stigmas, wowee.

    I've found that admitting to using IVF gets mixed responses as a lot of people have preconceived ideas about it and make judgements without asking about your experiences/reasons/whatever. Most of the time, they think it's my "fault" I couldn't conceive which is wrong for so many reasons (how is it ever someones fault?)

    I sometimes wonder what my littlie will grow up thinking of IVF. Pretty sure they don't teach kids that they start life in a lab then get frozen ha ha

    One bad experience (aside from the OHSS) was experiencing the hormone levels of a normal woman. Boy, did that SUCK! I've never had such high levels and never felt so bloated and moody! Yuck! IVF has also, therefore, helped me truly understand PMS

    IVF was the hard road to pregnancy, but after getting through it, no amount of blood tests or injections could scare me.

    I wish all those still cycling the very best of luck. Babydust for you all

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    Hi Ali.


    How many IVF cycles have you attempted?
    One fill stim cycle, we fell pregnant first time, currently 5.5 wks preg

    How much has IVF cost you financially (roughly)?
    after medicare rebate and private health insurance $3k exactly, the another$300 to store our 3 frozen embryos.

    What were the reasons for trying IVF?
    i have damaged fallopian tubes and my husband has 82 % abnormal sperm

    Has IVF affected your relationship with your partner, and if so how?
    not at all, we went into it knowing it would be hard, dont get me wrong there were quite a few stressfull tough times, but we stayed together and got stronger from this process.

    Have you been offered counselling at your clinic?
    yes, we went with IVF Australia and they had free councelling, have yet to use.

    Has your clinic advised on lifestyle, diet and alternative therapies such as acupuncture etc and how they may impact your success with IVF?
    yes, they advised us to start accupuncure before we started and we did, found it very helpful.

    Do you have a cut-off point or maximum number of IVF cycles you are willing to try?
    we gave our selves and money, 3 times.

    Has your IVF specialist discussed with you how many cycles you should attempt?
    no, case by case they said

    Have you thought about life after IVF and what you will do if unsuccessful?
    yes, we decided if it didnt work after 3 times we would quit and go traveling just the 2 of us

    In your own words, and as many words as you like, describe how you feel IVF has changed who you are and/or impacted on your life.

    knowing we had to use IVF was the most traumatic, unconceivable idea to me, but now.. am forever greatfull for the science and oppotunity

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    How many IVF cycles have you attempted?
    One

    How much has IVF cost you financially (roughly)?
    Around $6000
    What were the reasons for trying IVF?
    I have severe endometriosis (got a laproscopy in July 2013) Hubby has very low sperm morphology.
    Has IVF affected your relationship with your partner, and if so how?
    I think it got us closer
    Have you been offered counselling at your clinic?
    Yes
    Has your clinic advised on lifestyle, diet and alternative therapies such as acupuncture etc and how they may impact your success with IVF?
    They did not, but I started acupuncture a month before my stim cycle and its still going on.
    Do you have a cut-off point or maximum number of IVF cycles you are willing to try?
    Not yet.
    Has your IVF specialist discussed with you how many cycles you should attempt?
    No
    Have you thought about life after IVF and what you will do if unsuccessful?
    Didn't get to that, luckily I got pregnant on my first fresh transfer and i'm six weeks along.

    In your own words, and as many words as you like, describe how you feel IVF has changed who you are and/or impacted on your life.

    I have always been quite a control freak, but IVF has made me realize there are things in life you have absolutely no control over and you should make your peace with that.


 

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