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    3 weeks and I'm ready to give up. hubby can't watch me in tears feeding, I'm dreading every feed, everytime she cries.
    have seen a lactation consult and she latches properly but she does this thing with her tongue where she clicks which breaks the attachment. it has mean tears as it feels like somebody biting down on them. she's also very impatient so Hoover's it in which worsens the pain.
    I don't want to give up, but I just don't know what to do anymore I was just putting up with it but now I'm at the end of my tether

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    I have no advice, just hugs.

    Eta: I just realised I do a tongue clicky thing actually. I mostly do it when I'm thirsty and my mouth is a bit dry. Could it be that this is the case? It stimulates my saliva to wet my tongue, so maybe try stimulating her saliva glands somehow before feeding her and see if that helps? I know if I don‘t then I inhale whatever I drink, or hoover as you put it, but it doesn't always help and often makes it worse.

    Sorry if none of that made much sense. Only thing I can suggest.

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    I have no advice either but you sound like you really need some hugs
    Not sure if this will help in the long run or what effects it will have but maybe you could try expressing and giving her a bottle of expressed milk?

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    Did the lactation consultant check your LO for a tongue tie? My boys both 'clicked' when they fed and pull off the breast, made for a long and difficult session - painful too because they would try and clamp down harder on already sore nipples. Worth a check - your CHN should be able to check, or a paed. I expressed and bottle fed when my nipples got too sore, used a nipple shield as well. Hang in there.

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    I did get told something about that tongue clicking thing but can't remember what it was.

    I think maybe over supply? Not sure.

    Please go back to the LC and spend a long time with her so she can figure it out. If she has heard the clicking, find a new LC.

    I'm so sorry it's come to this point for you. I know it sucks so badly. (My Ds was tongue tied and kept biting me to try and latch on).

    Massive hugs. I hope you find someone that can help you with this issue.

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    This was me witu my son, I had bruised and cracked nipples DS lost 16% bofy weight and we were admitted back to hospital he also did the clicking and would leave my nipples with vasospasm the LC I saw was amazing she is from como but came all the way to NOR to see me if you want her details pm me but anyways turns out he had tongue tie got that cut and feeding has totally changed for the better big hugs I was there only a week ago I know how you feel

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    Quote Originally Posted by JessicaBailey View Post
    3 weeks and I'm ready to give up. hubby can't watch me in tears feeding, I'm dreading every feed, everytime she cries.
    have seen a lactation consult and she latches properly but she does this thing with her tongue where she clicks which breaks the attachment. it has mean tears as it feels like somebody biting down on them. she's also very impatient so Hoover's it in which worsens the pain.
    I don't want to give up, but I just don't know what to do anymore I was just putting up with it but now I'm at the end of my tether
    Tongue tie. Go. Get her checked for a posterior tongue tie. GP and some paeds can do it. Most latching issues are related to that.

    Not getting it cut can lead to speech delays later so I recommend you do it asap.

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    This sounds very similar to what my DS would do & eventually at 6 weeks a LC found a posterior tongue tie. Once corrected it was completely different & was very easy to fix. Please dont leave it as long as i did seek a 2nd & 3rd opinion if necessary as something isnt right. Hope it gets better for you soon

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    I'm not sure about the cause of the clicking and attachment issues, but early on, my bub had poor attachment which gave me painfully cracked nipples. It was excruciating to feed her. I expressed every feed for a few days and bottle fed her until they had healed enough for me to breastfeed her again (many sources say not to bottle feed as the baby can get nipple confusion but I had no problem with this). In the meantime, I had the midwife who visited my home show me how to get her to attach properly (admittedly this was a very painful demonstration). I also put Lansinoh cream on my nipples after every time I expressed which helped immensely with the healing process. To take some of the pressure off me, hubby would give her the bottle while I expressed the next feed. It took me about 5 days to have the confidence to put her back to the breast and it was still painful but it did get better after about a week and now at 10 weeks feeding her is effortless and painless.

    This is just a short term fix but will allow you to feed your bub until you can see someone about the tongue tie and will allow your nipples some time to heal.

    Hang in there and take care of yourself!


 

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