I still shower with DD1 who's 8 if need be or she wants too, we have a double shower in our ensuite which she loves. I have no issue with her seeing me naked, but my DH does. He stopped showering with her around age 5, she became grabby & he was uncomfortable with it. He also doesn't like her to see him naked, but to be fair she has been known to tell people "my daddy has a big penis". That was when she was younger.
See, Sassy Mummy - I can't wait to have those 'things got loud and silly' moments with my daughter (and so totally not in a bad way!!!!).
Almost every kid at some point gets self conscious, and that should be respected. But I remember seeing Mum & Dad nude from a young child - and obv as a young adult, while a tad awkward, everyone in my family recognized it as individual self-consciousness rather than 'OMG - ur naked! Cover up!!!!!'
My husband and I feel very strongly that nudity is not something that our children should feel ashamed of, and (not having 'perfect' bodies ourselves) what better way to educate our LO's that every body is different - and esp not what u see on tv or movies?
I agree it's when the parent or child starts feeling uncomfortable.
I don't shower with my kids as my showers are my 'me time' and I don't want to share them with anyone.lol
We all shower with the bathroom door open, the kids wonder out of the bathroom naked to get dressed, they are often around when I get changed, etc. So we are all fairly lax and comfortable with family nudity. Lol.
Great thread Sassy, my DS who is 9 still sees me naked all the time. I try to be private but he is always walking into the bathroom when I shower to talk to me (we have a open spa/shower type thingy). I don't want to make a big fuss and yell at him to get out as I don't want to distort his view of normal. DD still showers with me or DH from time to time she is 5. DD & DS still bathe together just about everyday. In our home naked is normal, I don't want it to be taboo. It works for our family our children have never questioned it either way and to be honest I think it's really healthy to be open about our bodies
I don't think there's an arbitrary age. It's horses for courses....so to speak.
I agree with and have had the same experiences with the majority. surprisingly more people than I thought think this is acceptable.
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We all will comfortably undress in front of each other/door open etc. The kids will sometimes shower with my DH or myself, although the older ones are getting a bit big to fit comfortable and everyone still get wet . My DD (nearly 10) is starting to develop physically, but still feels comfortable enough to roam around naked at home after a shower or whatever, and I am glad she doesnt feel self-conscious (yet). I think it is a good thing to feel comfortable in your own home. My DH and I sometimes feel a little uncomfortable, I think mostly because we struggle to grasp that our "little" girl is developing, but we wouldn't dream of telling her to get dressed..it's her home too.
These types of things just seem to change naturally over time, there doesnt seem to be a single moment when someone say "I don't want to do that anymore"...
DS, 8 showers with me regulary. It's pretty much how I get him up in the mornings! I'll turn the shower on, he'll come in (once it's warm), I'll wash, do my thing and get out and he'll stay in there until I tell him it's time to get out and get ready. He usually faces away from me and just stands there with the water running down his back. Sometimes he'll sit down. He's not a morning person.
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I still talk to my mum when she's in the shower, they don't have a door on the ensuite. Id also still talk to dad in the shower if I needed to. My parents have always been very open so it's been a totally non issue.
Dh and I are much the same. The boys don't even notice if we don't have clothes on. They are 5, 4 and 2. They also all still showered bath with us and I can see this changing soon but mainly because they all want to get in, and I can't see 4 kids (a big 5 year old) and an adult fit in the bath or shower. Even now the boys comment that we'll need a bigger bath in our next house
If they ever ask we'll stop. They are also fairly modest the rest of the time, they know there's a time and place and all about privates etc. they wouldn't go under the sprinkler at friends place ester day without their undies on...
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