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    FreyaMum - hi and good luck with determining when to tell DP. Do you think he will be or about it?

    Precious - oh exciting to be expecting a and to be so close to finishing work!

    FiveKids - how are you doing


    AFM I will be 6 months this week and am thrilled to have finally "popped" so now I look pregnant instead of overweight I don't feel hugely different and not really living my life much differently. The main change for me has been that I am sleeping badly - not a problem I've ever had before and makes me Oh I finally broke out the knitting needles and have 2 little jackets on the go.

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    So I told DP last night. He was shocked but took it better than I expected. But this morning he was depressed about it. He doesn't want another child, he is 43 and thinks he's too old. He super healthy I don't think that is really a problem. Our kids are 6 and 4 so not like we are young parents as it is!! I'm struggling again myself today, not so easy to be in denial now that it's out in the open. Ugh I'm too confused. Will be back when I come to terms with this.... I want to see this as a happy accident but I know I stuffed up (even though practically impossible logistically for this to have happened). So I feel guilty that we're in this situation, that I've put DP in this situation by not being responsible.

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    Don't be hard on yourself Freyamum. It just takes take time for this kind of thing to sink in.

    My partner is 43 and he is doing the father thing for the first time. It's not too old at all, it's just how you look at things and you've got young kids anyway which is a positive I think. I will have a 15 yr gap and my kids don't think I should be having another baby at my age. I think older parents can be better parents too for many reasons.

    I'm sure you will feel better once things settle down.

    Take care and be kind to yourself !

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    Twocam, glad things are going well and you have a baby bump to show off . It's SOOO exciting when that bump appears. I'm feeling and looking huge...30 weeks today! Not sure how big I'm going to get. I am having a growth scan at about 36 wks.

    9 more working days!,

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    Fivekids, glad things are going well. Hope you are getting enough sleep and support with the PND. I haven't experienced that before, but I hope you are okay! Hugs!

    I'm having the growth scan because my last baby was 10lb 6 oz, so they just want to check out this bubba's size. My GD test came back good, so who knows what's going on size wise.

    Have been getting heaps of BH lately, especially today. I don't remember getting these much from last pregnancy 15 yrs ago. Do you get them more, the more babies you have?
    Sometimes they get so tight it's uncomfortable.

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    Hi all, it's nice reading about other geriatric preggers doing well ;-)
    Unfortunately DP is not accepting the news. He wants us to see a counsellor which is a great idea, except I feel his main aim is to persuade me to get rid of it. I still can't figure out how I feel except that I know I do not want to terminate. But this is such a huge thing for our family I feel under great pressure to be open to that option. He just keeps going on about all the difficulties we would face. Maybe I'm just in denial but unless a medical reason pops up they are all things we can deal with. The timing of sex, me being 40 and on thyroid meds, makes this all so unlikely. I don't believe in things predestined / meant to be, but I can't but think of this little person who has beaten the odds to get to this point, who are we to deny it life because it's not in our plans?! I don't think DP would leave his family if he can't accept but I'm no longer 100% sure. He says he understands how much harder this is for me but even though I keep saying I can't terminate we are still talking like it's an option.
    Ugh sorry I don't want to be a downer on this thread - I've mostly been posting about this in other groups. But I do hope we move on from this stage and I get to share some of the ups and downs of over pregnancy and parenting over 40

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    Sounds like you are having a tough time Freyamum. I hope you and your partner can come to some of joint decision that you are both happy with. I'm sorry DP isn't coming to terms about the pregnancy, but I think counselling could be beneficial, at least you can both discuss everything with each other with a third party. Be completely honest with him, because once you've terminated it can also be emotionally difficult to deal with down the track. I have been there and regretted it, and I had a .lot of issues to deal with at the time along with bad timing etc. but in hindsight I look back and I guess I felt it was the right thing to do at the time, but had I continued with that pregnancy those issues would have eventually sorted themselves out, and with that regretted my decision and that was 10 yrs ago, although my DP encouraged it, he let me make that final decision. I still feel guilty and sad about that and it all came up again when i had a m/c earlier this year, and i now feel so blessed to be having a baby and so happy that I have been given that chance again. Termination is a very personal decision and you need to find what is right for you, everyone is different and have their own opinions about it. Goodluck and I do really hope that everything works out for you. things have a habit of working out in the end, although it may be a tough journey to get where you want to be, if that makes sense.

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    Wonderfully and sensitively written, Precious. Freya good luck with DP and working things though

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    Thanks twocam

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    Hello lladiesso hope it's ok if I join this thread. I'm well over 40 and am just starting my 17th week of pregnancy.

    Twocam- we were both on a conception issue thread before My bubba is a donor egg baby & we feel so blessed to be where we are.

    Freyamun- you sound like a strong, sensible woman. The choice is in your heart. Try & think how you will feel in one months time either way. Such a hard position to be in. I know how stressed husbands can get. They feel the pressure of providing & maybe your DH just needs reassuring he is doing a great job & you can set budgets together etc. sending you positives & best wishes

    My ob thought I may have had Graves Disease- over active thyroid- but a specialist today confirmed that I don't. So relieved.

    Best wishes to all


 

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