Just need to know whether I am being silly or whether I am justified in my feelings right now, as DH thinks I am just over-reacting and being controlling.
Wednesday was our babies EDD - we miscarried back in September so it was a particularly hard day. I have barely seen DH due to him working a string of nightshifts at work, and he had Wednesday off. He left here at 3pm to meet a friend for a concert that night. Before he left he promised me he wouldn't get drunk or smoke weed, "I'll have a few drinks, enjoy myself & then come home and cuddle my wife".
By 7pm he was drunk & rang his mum to say not to come pick him up because he wasn't coming home. I got annoyed because he had promised he wasn't getting drunk and had said he would come home. He went off at me for being annoyed.
I ended up crying myself to sleep Wednesday night - something that in my eyes, I shouldn't have had to do. I had to grieve for our baby - alone. While he was off drunk having a great time.
He didn't get home yesterday until 3:10pm and had to rush out the door because he was about to be late for work. His clothes reeked like cigarettes - so he had been smoking. He's an ex smoker and often tells me he feels so much better and how awful smoking is and how awful it makes him feel when he does it - but everytime he gets around a certain set of friends he does it. (same with weed, which he says he didnt smoke wednesday but i dont believe). Left his phone behind because it had gone flat, so I couldn't even communicate with him.. Last contact we had had was 7pm Wednesday.
This morning I have bought it up. We have now had a massive argument. Apparently I am not entitled to be angry, he "sees nothing wrong" with what he did. Then flipped it on me to say that I am just suspicious and controlling. My feelings have no justification what so ever. I'm not allowed to feel angry or hurt that I've barely seen him all week and the one day off he gets he spends an hour with me then disappears for well over 30 hours, having a great time breaking promises and leaving me to grieve for our baby alone.
Then he stormed out.
So my question is - how would you feel? Am I justified in my feelings, or is he right?