First up I would like to say I love my children terribly and have been told by DH I give to much of myself to them, the older 2 DD 8 and DS1 6 have both been sick this week so have been home with me and bub and I think I am very quickly losing patience. I try very hard not to yell at my children but today a simple conversation about dinner turned into a battle or words with DD in which she pointed out all things she feels makes me a bad mother, like asking her to clean her room, or not leave her stuff all over the house and not letting her get maccas for dinner. We argued to the point where I now have a sore throat and am emotionally drained from crying for 2 hours. I feel very ashamed that I lost my head a little, I rang DH to try and calm down big mistake he barely paid attention to what I was saying so that set me off again. I also feel ashamed that I am slightly resenting their presence around me right now. I feel like I could have handled so many things differently and things wouldn't have boiled over but then I think "hey I am the parent and shouldn't be spoken to like she spoke to me" and "hey they are your kids to how about helping out a little" and then those thoughts make me feel worse as i feel that i am being selfish. DD has started developing so I know she is struggling with hormones so she doesn't mean to go off and DH is busy working but my word they have driven me to near insanity. Has anybody ever had really bad days like this or am I right in feeling ashamed?