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    lt certainly is observation and factual and WA is the highest for c section rates I believe.
    The 'that's so great' comment implied some judgement on her behalf and i just would have thought they would have to remain fairly objective seeing the amount of different women with a range of experiences they come into contact with.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lambjam View Post
    While I'm sure she didn't intend it, using the word "great" implies that a higher number would have been disappointing, hence that caesarean births are inferior in some way.

    That's how I would take a comment like that. But maybe it's because I had a c-section and as much as it worked for me and I was happy, I get a lot of negative comments because of it. Which I think has made me more sensitive to any comments regarding c-sections.

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    My first thought was 'how could that be rude' but after thinking about it, I don't think it was an appropriate or necessary comment.

    If I was 1 of the 2 to have had a c-section, I would probably feel a lot less comfortable talking to her about my birth .

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    I've never been part of a mothers' group, but my question is: why is she asking that in the first place? Not really any of her business. Wouldn't the mothers discuss that among themselves if they wanted to? Isn't the idea of a mothers' group to meet up with other mothers with babies about the same age so you can share concerns/ideas/support each other?

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    Quote Originally Posted by kbf2plus2 View Post
    I've never been part of a mothers' group, but my question is: why is she asking that in the first place? Not really any of her business. Wouldn't the mothers discuss that among themselves if they wanted to? Isn't the idea of a mothers' group to meet up with other mothers with babies about the same age so you can share concerns/ideas/support each other?
    The one I am going to is run through the MCHN for the first 4 sessions an then it's up to to group to meet up after that.
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    Quote Originally Posted by kbf2plus2 View Post
    I've never been part of a mothers' group, but my question is: why is she asking that in the first place? Not really any of her business. Wouldn't the mothers discuss that among themselves if they wanted to? Isn't the idea of a mothers' group to meet up with other mothers with babies about the same age so you can share concerns/ideas/support each other?
    I agree. I think asking someone how they birthed is pretty personal, and not an appropriate ice-breaker no matter what the context. It serves nothing more than to highlight perceived differences between the members.

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    they ask it because they can then guide conversation and give support...the aftercare for c section is different...so if there were all c section or all natural...they could discuss different things.

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    Quote Originally Posted by River Song View Post
    they ask it because they can then guide conversation and give support...the aftercare for c section is different...so if there were all c section or all natural...they could discuss different things.
    I agree it's conversation .. Sorry but people are so sensitive with this subject .. I really don't get it !! ( I had c sec.. And will have another in 10 weeks ) .. In real life I have never come across the insecurities about how you birthed that I have seen on this site ..

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    Quote Originally Posted by Maybelline View Post
    I agree it's conversation .. Sorry but people are so sensitive with this subject .. I really don't get it !! ( I had c sec.. And will have another in 10 weeks ) .. In real life I have never come across the insecurities about how you birthed that I have seen on this site ..
    Have you had any negative comments from people IRL about your c-section though? I have and although I was happy with how my DD was born, it still annoys me. I have had comments like "you're missing out on a real birth experience by having a c-section" or "oh, you had a c-section, that's not really the same".

    So yeah I think people are sensitive, but other people can also be a$$holes when it comes to it too. I get a little defensive now because I get sick of basically being told my birth wasn't as special as someone who had an all natural birth. It does my head in.


    Just trying to explain why some people are sensitive, don't know if I made much sense haha

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    I'm not insecure about how I birthed at all. But if a nurse described my being in the minority as "great!" I might well have been.


 

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