oh sunshinebell - I am so sorry to hear of your outcome, must be so stressful and distressing for you and DH.
Btw - have you heard of this new blood test which they do in america. You get your bloods taken out either at hanly douglas moir (they charge $1,320 and no medicare rebate) and sydney ultrasound for women charges $700. The blood gets sent to America where they test the DNA of the baby which is present in the mothers blood to check for any abnormalities. They can also check gender with this test, apparently it is 99.6% accurate and it was in current affair in March this year I think. I did this test and will get my results tmrw, I didn't have to do this test as my NT results came out really well but DH and I opted to do it anyway, this rest is more accurate than the NT results. Apparently this test will replace CVS and aminio etc at some stage.