I admit I'm in an emotional mood right now but I'm with Sonja. For the 2 kids I have and the 3rd we are ttc it has taken 7 years. 7 years of pain, anguish and hell and to hear a woman ending her child's life simply bc she is a girl makes me mad.
Again, I don't believe being pro choice means you automatically just accept this sort of stuff as being ok.
And I hope you don't think I'm being narky at you Onion as I said, I do see where you are coming from, but this topic upsets me.
While I'm pro choice the idea that someone would terminate due to the s3x of the baby revolts me. I don't see an issue with finding out the s3x later tbh, years ago ppl didn't find out till bubs was born so what's the issue with waiting until 24weeks.
I haven't read through this thread but..
My thoughts are, when you set out to have a baby you know that it will be one of 2 sexes. If you can't deal with that reality, then perhaps you need to re-examine your decision to have a child.
That said, I do understand that people have every right to have a preference, oftne driven by a very strong desire/ or connection to a gender. I naturally exclude from all of this people who have a medical reason where a child will be born with, or at a higher risk of having, a particular medical condition.
In my Utopia all these unwanted little bubs could magically be transported into the wombs of all those women that ache for them
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I have four girls, we just found out we are having another accidental baby. If we found out we were having another girl we would get over it and love her the same as the others. We could never abort just because its a girl.
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I know many people who refuse to research exactly how the 'pregnancy' is 'removed' - because they would rather bury their head in the sand and not know how it is done. It is too distressing for them to see. Hell yeah, it's distressing! There is an account of a partial birth abortion by Nurse Brenda Shafer, which is aboslutely chilling, and it makes my heart ache reading about what she has seen. It is so devastating and awful and I just cannot believe that a civilised society allows it to happen
I was told at my 20w scan 1st time around I was having a boy - I was stoked, always wanted a boy - imagine my shock at 34w when my OB confirmed a girl. Would it have been acceptable for me to abort then? I think not! My 'choice' - not a chance!
Btw I experienced sex disappointment with my first (but would definitely not have chosen to end the pregnancy). I got over it as soon as she was in my arms. I am a very proud and happy mum to 2 x DD's.
Just look at the problems China is now experiencing - men not being able to find suitable partners - because of their one child policy and preferred sex! Unintended consequences.
I feel terrible for anyone faced with a decision to terminate for reasons OTHER than sex alone (unless of course for medical reasons). For most people it is not a decision taken lightly and can have long term consequences both medically and psychologically.
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